tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7104136715924136884.post3467208939766602500..comments2024-03-25T04:55:10.099-07:00Comments on Wisdom Quarterly: American Buddhist Journal: Buddhism's "Sexual Misconduct" DefinedWisdom Quarterlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16270831701299130326noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7104136715924136884.post-43615543135227848082016-01-06T19:58:50.961-08:002016-01-06T19:58:50.961-08:00Does watching porn count as sexual miscondcut?Does watching porn count as sexual miscondcut?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7104136715924136884.post-44826073692450531482015-09-01T15:45:57.751-07:002015-09-01T15:45:57.751-07:00Neither swinging nor not swinging is the way... At...Neither swinging nor not swinging is the way... Attachment to either is probably not going to serveStay Truehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14469660152525177763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7104136715924136884.post-82676255529755027202015-09-01T15:44:13.564-07:002015-09-01T15:44:13.564-07:00Exactly... People assume that multiple partners=mo...Exactly... People assume that multiple partners=more attachment/more craving, but I have experienced the opposite... Craving/Posessiveness/Attachment is common in monogamous relationships Stay Truehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14469660152525177763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7104136715924136884.post-37819577399121666512015-03-02T07:57:45.775-08:002015-03-02T07:57:45.775-08:00Swinging and polyamory are against "the Way&q...Swinging and polyamory are against "the Way"? Bullshit. They're just things people do that yr uncomfortable with, so therefore "those" people have too much desire, they couldn't be as "enlightened" as you, surely not.....<br /><br />The idea that orgiastic sex and spirituality are mutually exclusive is almost laughable when you consider that there are respectable spiritual traditions that make it an integral part of their ritual and worship, even within Buddhism, although usually in symbolic form.<br /><br />You say that such a lifestyle is indicative of extreme craving, but thats just judgement. Swingers are just being open and honest with their partners and the world about their sexuality. This is likely to lead to REDUCED suffering. Who's doing more to overcome their egoic desires, the renunciate who swears off all sex to meditate for years, or the orgiast who overcomes jealousy and monogamy to please their partner? Yr just pissed that someone may be having group sex and realizing the Infinite at the same time, while you spent 20 years in a cave.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7104136715924136884.post-37883245703186841112014-10-24T08:36:56.991-07:002014-10-24T08:36:56.991-07:00If one practices regular meditation and buddhist e...If one practices regular meditation and buddhist ethics of non-harm in relationship through practice of unbounded maitri for all living beings, the craving for physical sex subsides naturally, just like any other cravings or thirst (tanha). Swinging is not going against the stream of sensual desire of 'samsara'. If your goal is to end suffering and attain unshakable freedom of mind by gaining a foothold in 'noble life' then 'swinging' is 'Not the way". http://what-buddha-said.net/drops/IV/Untroubled_Yeah.htmAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7104136715924136884.post-77924549122072422972014-05-05T09:32:39.315-07:002014-05-05T09:32:39.315-07:00Really helpful.Really helpful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7104136715924136884.post-54346606116888906832014-05-05T08:18:00.944-07:002014-05-05T08:18:00.944-07:00Very helpful.Very helpful.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01331757788554107751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7104136715924136884.post-63484746040187275512013-11-21T15:27:01.701-08:002013-11-21T15:27:01.701-08:00Having sex is ok, but only if there is a need for ...Having sex is ok, but only if there is a need for that and it's in front of you. If you keep craving for sex and then try other fetishes, then you are just chasing your sensations. And the sensations always comes and goes away quickly. So you are wasting your time in fulfilling sensations which will go away eventually. Also if you full one sensation, then a new sensation will arise waiting to get fulfilled and it will keep going on like this. You have to break the cycle and be with the person you love and even though both parties agree to swingers stuff, don't do it otherwise you will keep chasing which is eventually going to pass away, and you will be stuck in that cycle of misery.<br /><br />Hope that helpsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7104136715924136884.post-70870222664120195442012-07-28T10:11:31.417-07:002012-07-28T10:11:31.417-07:00Well. Having multiple sexual partners would lead o...Well. Having multiple sexual partners would lead one to overdevelopment of the sensual self.<br />If the goal of Buddhism is to eliminate craving, we can see where sex would be a problem. <br />One does not stop craving sex by having it.<br />And ones desire would have to be rather high if one is seeking out other partners for sexual pleasure. Fetishes and sexual practices come from a need to feel "more" sexual excitement, more pleasure.<br />Thus orgies and many other sexual activities fall into the realm of earthly lust. Committing these activities keeps one tied down in kama.<br />The 4 precepts are a simple guide for lay Buddhists to get along in society. So not having sex with promised or enslaved people serves the purpose of not inducing rage or sadness in people. And while technically an orgy with consenting parties wouldnt be sexual misconduct you must ask yourself.... is this actiom creating craving ? Does this action come from craving?<br />One of the roadblocks to enlightenment is thst we often want to excuse our own actions.<br />Another thing that Buddha admonished was delusion. We must fight self delusion continuously!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7104136715924136884.post-2725029408288933932012-07-13T09:01:23.579-07:002012-07-13T09:01:23.579-07:00I don't know about that, I mean technically yo...I don't know about that, I mean technically you are right but that just doesn't seem like the right thing to do...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7104136715924136884.post-57092954417346384652012-07-06T22:32:48.789-07:002012-07-06T22:32:48.789-07:00Lets say someone did find themselves in a mutually...Lets say someone did find themselves in a mutually consenting relationship and wanted to go to a swingers party or engage multiple even random sexual partners. While it might not be sexual misconduct in the first instance, might that if developed into an accustomed habit over expose oneself sensually? To keep with the spirit of Dharma would it be better to let go of craving or is it neither-here-nor-there to cultivate such culture?Wei Jernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7104136715924136884.post-3215818332761920822012-04-05T15:51:28.309-07:002012-04-05T15:51:28.309-07:00And sexual misconduct doesn't include things s...And sexual misconduct doesn't include things such as Polyamory or Swinging, so long as both partners in the marriage and happy with it and everyone is consenting.<br />Misconduct happens when lies are told or bullying happens. So you can go to a Swingers party with your partner, you can both have multiple sexual partners and Sexual Misconduct will not happen.Russellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05756346663625583590noreply@blogger.com