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| Attachment, addiction in Requiem for a Dream |
“We all have the potential to fall in
love a thousand times in our lifetime. It's easy. The first girl I ever
loved was someone I knew in the sixth grade. Her name was Missy; we
talked about horses. The last girl I love will be someone I haven't even
met yet. Probably. They all count. But there are certain people you
love who do something else; they define how you classify what love is
supposed to feel like. These are the most important people in your life,
and you'll meet maybe four or five of these people over the span of 80
years. But there's still one more tier to all this; there is always one
person you love who becomes that definition. It usually happens
retrospectively, but it always happens eventually.
“This is the person
who unknowingly sets the template for what you will always love about
other people, even if some of those lovable qualities are
self-destructive and unreasonable. You will remember having
conversations with this person that never actually happened.
“You will
recall sexual trysts with this person that never technically occurred.
This is because the individual who embodies your personal definition of
love does not really exist. The person is real, and the feelings are
real -- but you create the context. And context is everything. The person
who defines your understanding of love is not inherently different than
anyone else, and they're often just the person you happen to meet first
time you really, really want to love someone. But that person still
wins. They win, and you lose. Because for the rest of your life, they
will control how you feel about everyone else.”
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