Sex and the Muslim girl: new book tells all

Alia Waheed (The Guardian); Ashley Wells, Crystal Quintero, CC Liu (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly

 

Muslim Sex Manual: Halal

Taboo-busting sex guide offers advice to Muslim women seeking fulfilling love lives The Muslimah Sex Manual: A Halal Guide to Mind Blowing Sex is praised for empowering women seeking fulfilling love lives.
 

It was a confession by a newlywed friend about her disastrous sex life that gave Umm Muladhat an idea for a groundbreaking book.

  

"Women's rights are human rights."

Published last week, The Muslimah Sex Manual: A Halal Guide to Mind Blowing Sex [halal is to Muslims what "kosher" is to Jews] is the first such guide written by a Muslim woman. The author has chosen to stay anonymous, using an alias.

Candid advice is offered on everything from kissing to cowgirl positions -- with the core message being that Muslim women can and should enjoy a varied sex life and take the lead in physical relationships.

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While some critics have accused the author of fetishizing Muslim women and encouraging promiscuity, the book has been welcomed by readers who have lauded her as a Muslim Belle De Jour, bringing a taboo subject into the open:

“I’ve received encouraging feedback, but also a significant number of demeaning and disgusting messages,” said Muladhat.

“One woman said it’s not needed; they learn everything from their mothers. I doubt any mother speaks in as explicit detail as I have.

We know nothing of sex. These are accidents.

“I put an emphasis on having sex only with your spouse, but having the full range of sexual experiences with that spouse. Islamically, there’s an emphasis on enjoying physical relationships within the context of marriage, not just for procreation [like Catholicism dictates to its followers]. It is the wife’s right that her husband satisfy her sexually.”

Muslim women’s organizations have praised her, saying the book will empower Muslim women and protect them from entering into sexually abusive relationships. More

 

"Daddy"? Yuck! I don't want to marry a much older man! - But I already paid your dowry.

I am not sure about this book. Let us ban it in Saudi Arabia, home of the CIA's Wahhabism.

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