High price of our FEAR of loneliness

High price we pay for our FEAR of loneliness

(School of Life, 1/1/20) We often make some very peculiar and regrettable choices on the basis of a hidden and unmentioned fear: that of being alone.

But once we realize that there isn't, in fact, anything to fear about being on our own, we'll be liberated to make some far healthier decisions.

The price I've had to pay for being desperate

“It’s not hard to understand the fear of being alone: the empty apartment after work, the eeriness of Sunday afternoons, the sense of exclusion during the holidays… We know the agonies of being on our own very well. What is far less well understood, and less eloquently or frequently described, is the enormously high price exacted on the other side of the equation. The fear, or more often simply the phobia, of being alone is perhaps responsible for more unhappy relationships, more throttling of psychological development, more claustrophobia, and more pent-up misery than almost any other: It is – by any reckoning – one of the single greatest contributors to human misery and the driver of some of our weightiest and most unfortunate decisions. If only we were able to get the costs of what is for the most part a simple misapprehension clear in our minds, we might save ourselves a substantial portion of our lives…”

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Produced in collaboration with: Natalia Ramos nataliarama.com. Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions valeproductions.co.uk.