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| Yes, dear. You're right again, dear. Whatever you say, dear. (Well that was easy!) |
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| If happy, I smile. If I want to be happy, I smile. If I smile, my mind feels happy (BB). |
(RobRom HC) Saccharine Trust's "I Am Right" (see lyrics below).
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It is better to be right than to be happy -- at least for one husband on the cutting edge of science.
As
part of an unusual experiment, the husband was instructed to “agree
with his wife’s every opinion and request without complaint,” and to
continue doing so “even if he believed the female participant was
wrong,” according to a report on the research that was published Tuesday [Dec. 9, 2014] by the British Medical Journal.
The
husband and wife were helping a trio of doctors test their theory that
pride and stubbornness get in the way of good mental health.
In their
own medical practices in New Zealand, they had observed patients leading
“unnecessarily stressful lives by wanting to be right rather than
happy.” If these patients could just let go of the need to prove to
others that they were right, would greater happiness be the result?
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| Whole world is happier now |
Enter the intrepid husband. Based on the assumption that
men would rather be happy than be right, he was told to agree with his
wife in all cases.
However, based on the assumption that women would
rather be right than be happy, the doctors decided not to tell the wife
why her husband was suddenly so agreeable.
Both spouses were asked
to rate their quality of life on a scale of 1 to 10 (with 10 being the
happiest) at the start of the experiment and again on Day 6. It’s not
clear how long the experiment was intended to last, but it came to an
abrupt halt on Day 12.
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“By then the male participant found the
female participant to be increasingly critical of everything he did,”
the researchers reported. The husband couldn’t take it anymore, so he
made his wife a cup of tea and told her what had been going on.
That led the researchers to terminate the study. Over
the 12 days of the experiment, the husband’s quality of life plummeted
from a baseline score of 7 all the way down to 3. The wife started out
at 8 and rose to 8.5 by Day 6. She had no desire to share her quality of
life with the researchers on Day 12, according to the report.
Still, the team was able to draw some preliminary conclusions: “It
seems that being right, however, is a cause of happiness, and agreeing
with what one disagrees with is a cause of unhappiness,” they wrote.
They also noted that “the availability of unbridled power adversely
affects the quality of life of those on the receiving end.” More
I AM RIGHT
Jack Brewer (Saccharine Trust)
LYRICS: "You were always cunning like the game you'd play/ As your mindless
kindless friends would say/ You got what you wanted but not what you
needed/ No matter how hard you pleaded/ Your 18 and you know it all/ So
how in the hell could you ever fall/ For such a thoughtless gutless
fool/ Who taught you about drugs and kept you out of school// Isn't that
right/ I am right/ I am right/ I am right/ No one no one is gonna tell
me otherwise/ No one no one is gonna fill this boy with lies// The trash
can jazzman really was a has been/ Though you laid him down like he was
the last man/ Though your family never took it calmly/ When they pulled
the covers you were in jeopardy/ With your back in a brace your arm's
in a sling/ Your doctor's screaming, Have you had your fling?!/ Well you
spent all your time in the protest line/ But what did you get from
screaming screaming screaming,/ I am right/ I am right/ I am right/ I am
right!?/ No one no one is gonna tell me otherwise/ No one no one is
gonna fill this boy with lies/ So forth and so forth/ You really had a
cold heart/ Once on your knees, you weren't such a bad sport/ You
started crying when they caught you lying/ No one ever said you weren't
trying/ With your mind on the freeway/ Your mouth on a cliche/ You
walked in the party talking like a DJ/ You had your rations of middle
class fashions/ I am right/ I am right/ I am right I am right/ No one no
one is gonna tell me otherwise/ No one no one is gonna fill this boy
with lies!"
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