Thursday, November 15, 2018

Good Suffering versus Bad Suffering

Ajahn Chah ( via Ven. Sujato; Aloka, Dhr. Seven (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly

Grasping for pleasures, I'm disappointed.
There are two kinds of suffering -- the suffering that leads to more suffering, and the suffering that leads to the end of suffering.

The first is the pain of grasping after [and trying to cling to] fleeting pleasures with an aversion for the unpleasant and displeasing, the continued struggle of most people day after day.

The second is the suffering that comes when we allow ourselves to feel fully the constant change of experience -- pleasure, pain, joy, and anger -- free of fear or withdrawing.

The suffering of our experience leads to inner fearlessness, [letting go], and peace. More

Orgasm study; learning orgasmic meditation

VICE (, 9/6/17); Ashley Wells, Crystal Quintero (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly 
The science of female pleasure needs much more study.

The Biggest-Ever Orgasm Study Tells Us More About How Women Come: The world needs this right now
I need help such as from these lubricants.
A study published in The Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy found that:

Nearly 37 percent of American women require clitoral [woman's pleasure center] stimulation to experience orgasm, compared with 18 percent of women who said that vaginal penetration alone was enough to come.

According to Debby Herbenick, a researcher at the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University, the results of this study revealed women's wide range of preferences when it came to how they liked being touched during sex.

Getting Off on sex addiction (Erica Garza)
The study, which was conducted in partnership with OMGYes, a company focused on "the science of women's pleasure," surveyed more than 1,000 women between the ages of 18 and 94.

The study followed on the heels of a round of 1,000 interviews conducted by OMGYes with different women about their sexual preferences, for a combined cohort of 2,000 participants to make this largest-ever study on the specifics of women's pleasure.

Tay, racist, sexist robot (Microsoft)
The women in the study took a survey composed of 30 multi-part questions related to their sexual behaviors, attitudes, and experiences with genital touching, including detailed questions about how the women preferred to be touched.

Nearly 37 percent of women responded that they needed clitoral stimulation to come, and another 36 percent responded that while they didn't require clitoral stimulation to orgasm, it did enhance the experience.

Eighteen (18) percent of respondents said vaginal penetration alone was sufficient for orgasm, and 9 percent reported that they didn't have orgasms during intercourse, or achieved orgasm in other ways, such as oral sex. More

Wednesday, November 14, 2018

Practice Loving Kindness (Nov. 17, Dec. 1)

Trudy Goodman (; Crystal Quintero, Seth Auberon (eds.), Wisdom QuarterlyInsightLA logo. Calming Minds, Opening Hearts, Changing the World
In these troubling and divisive times, it was heartening to hear the wise words of Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. quoted by Rev. Michael Curry.

It was at the royal wedding in May that he said, "We must discover the power of love, the redemptive power of love. And when we do that, we will make of this old world a new world. Love is the only way."

The ancient Buddhist teaching of metta ("loving kindness") meditation is a training in discovering and harnessing this power of love.

The sutras say in practicing metta we familiarize ourselves with a particular quality. We see its effect on our mind and body and how it expands our hearts and minds, overcomes our fears and self-doubt. We thereby gain confidence and trust in it as a truly trustworthy, helpful, and powerful force. That's the power of love.

It is a force that can liberate our minds and the force we need to heal society.  It is the antidote for divisiveness and hatred.

Join Melissa McKay at InsightLA East Hollywood for a half-day of practice on Saturday, Dec. 1. And THIS SATURDAY (Nov. 17) join Cayce Howe and Wendy Block in Long Beach for an entire day of metta meditation.

"Wacky" new Democratic ideas (video)

Fox News keeps making Progressives look good (accidentally)
Joanna Rothkopf
Laura Ingraham tried to attack Alexandria Ocasio Cortez, Ayanna Pressley, Rashida Tlaib, and Ilhan Omar. It backfired.

On Tuesday evening, Laura Ingraham (sorry) did a segment on her show, The Ingraham Angle (so sorry), entitled, “The Freshman Insurrection” (please forgive me).

Progressives look good on Fox (Getty/Fox).
In the segment, Ingraham discusses a new class of progressive congresswomen—specifically, Rashida Tlaib, Ayanna Pressley, Ilhan Omar, and Alexandria Ocasio Cortez. As is the case with most of Ingraham’s work, the segment is clearly meant to strike fear into the hearts of the white and retired.

But if not delivered with Ingraham’s trademark sneer, it would have actually come across as a pretty good campaign ad. More

Yes, Trump altered Acosta video
If I were president...Hillary
[The Trump administration's second most dependable liar behind Sarah Huckabee Sanders] Kellyanne Conway admitted to Fox News’s Chris Wallace Sunday that the Jim Acosta video tweeted by White House Press Secretary Sarah Huckabee Sanders was, in fact, doctored. And in so doing she coined another phrase that, although not as catchy as "alternative facts," is just as Orwellian. More + VIDEO

Tuesday, November 13, 2018

If Buddhism taught Biology

§ 3. The root inheritance, the starting capital for self-training
I didn't ask to be reborn. It was my karma.
...This suggests that namo must be significant.

"If we take it up for consideration, we find that na stands for the water element, and mo for the earth element—and with this, a line from the Buddhist texts comes to mind:

Mātā-petika-sambhavo odāna-kummāsa-paccayo:

The caul or embryonic sac we're born in
"When the generative elements of the mother and father are combined, the body comes into being. When it is born from the mother’s womb, it is nourished with rice and meal and so is able to develop and grow."

Na is the mother’s element; mo, the father’s element. When these two elements are combined, the mother’s fire element then warms the combination until it becomes what is called a kalala, a droplet of oil.

This is the point where the connecting consciousness (paṭisandhi-viññāṇa) can make its connection so that the mind becomes joined to the namo element. Once the mind has taken up residence, the droplet of oil develops until it is an ambuja, a glob of blood.

"From a glob of blood it becomes a ghana, a rod, and then a pesī, a lump of flesh. Then it expands itself into a lizard-like shape, with five extensions: two arms, two legs, and a head.

"(As for the elements ba, breath, and dha, fire, these take up residence later, because they are not what the mind holds onto. If the mind lets the droplet of oil drop, the droplet of oil vanishes or is discarded as useless.

"It has no breath or fire, just as when a person dies and the breath and fire vanishes from the body. This is why we say they are secondary elements. The important factors are the two original elements, namo).
I am completely dependent on others.
"After the child is born, it has to depend on na, its mother, and mo, its father, to care for it, nurturing it and nourishing it with such foods as rice and meal, at the same time teaching and training it in every form of goodness.

"The mother and father are thus called the child’s first and foremost teachers. The love and benevolence the mother and father feel for their children cannot be measured or calculated. The legacy they give us—this body—is our primal inheritance.

"External wealth, silver or gold, comes from this body. If we didn’t have this body, we wouldn’t be able to do anything, which means that we wouldn’t have anything at all.

"For this reason, our body is the root of our entire inheritance from our mother and father, which is why we say that the good they have done us cannot be measured or calculated [and is impossible to repay except by establishing them in the liberating Dharma]. Wise people thus never neglect or forget them.

"We first have to take up this body, this namo, and only then do we perform the act of bending it down in homage. To translate namo as homage is to translate only the act, not the source of the act." More

A Heart Released: The Teachings of Phra Ajaan Mun, translated by Ven. Ṭhānissaro. (ePublished Jan. 1, 2016). Much has been written about the life of Ajahn Mun (1870-1949), the founder of the Thai Forest Tradition, but very little was recorded of his teachings during his lifetime. (Most of his teachings he left in the form of people: the students whose lives were profoundly shaped by the experience of living and practicing meditation under his guidance). Translated here, A Heart Released (Muttodaya), is a record of passages from his sermons made during the years 1944-1945 by two monks who were staying under his guidance.

Pasadena's Doo Dah Parade 2018 (Nov. 18)

The Doo Dah Parade; Seth Auberon, Ashley Wells, Crystal Q. (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly
Doo Dah mocks my coronation and parade!
Join the 41st Pasadena Doo Dah Parade this Sunday at 11:00 AM. The Doo Dah info line is (626) 590-7596. The alternative to the Rose Parade starts at 2627 East Colorado Blvd. between Altadena Drive and San Gabriel Blvd. Checklist: lawn chair, sunglasses, wig, outrageous cooler, fully charged phone, cash for t-shirts and refreshments later, comfy shoes.
Check the website for after party info:
@pasadenadoodah #pasadenadoodah

JOB: Meditation Producer (10% Happier)

10% Happier touches millions of lives already - through our meditation app, best-selling books, and top-ranked podcast.

At its core meditation is a simple, secular, scientifically validated exercise for our minds. Like running in the 70s, or yoga in the 90s, meditation is now poised to become the next big public health revolution.

Join the team that’s accelerating this revolution. 10% Happier is backed by extraordinary investors, co-founded by #1 New York Times bestselling author Dan Harris of ABC News, and guided by the world’s most respected meditation teachers and scientists. 
The Role:
As a Meditation Producer, work collaboratively with our team (including guiding teachers Joseph Goldstein and Sharon Salzberg and 10% Happier co-founder Dan Harris of ABC News) to guide the creation of and deliver world-class content on meditation and mindfulness.
Help people make the most of their minds, while challenging yours along the way.

Note: This role is all about working with 10% Happier teachers to create content in their voice, not about creating meditation content in your voice (even though you may be a qualified teacher!)

Your Ideal Experience: More

A very Vegan Thanksgiving! But how? (Nov. 18)

Thanksgiving Dinner Vegan Turkey Roll under Mushroom Gravy, Fried Chicken, Meatloaf, and Macaroni and Cheese
Vegan Thanksgiving Dinner Plate of California Citrus Chikken_2 Best Fillets smothered in an Agave Orange Glaze served with Patty Pan Squash, Snap Peas, and a Wild TexMati Rice PilafFREE SAMPLES, TASTINGS, and DRINKS:
21+ Vegan Thanksgiving Chefs and Vendors
Serving Thanksgiving dinner at home or eating over with friends and family?

Either way, how about having holiday dinner items prepared by the best vegan chefs? We'll have all the fixings to make sure everyone's satisfied -- with plenty of choices for Thanksgiving dinner! 
Upscale Vegan wants everyone to spend more time with loved one. Do just that when the Thanksgiving meal is prepared in advance. They cook so you don't have to. 

Vegan vendors offer everything needed to enjoy a delicious, plant-powered Thanksgiving -- entrées, sides, and desserts! Fall clothing, accessories, candles, table settings, home goods, and beauty supplies will be on sale as well. 
  • TICKET INCLUDES: FREE samples, tastings, UNLIMITED drinks
  • Reserve now: Tickets $14 at door (if available) 
  • FREE PARKING before 11:30 AM
Vendors will supply containers to take-away holiday meal items. Feel free to bring preferred containers to store Thanksgiving dinner menu foods. In that way, exact serving needs will be provided at a better negotiated price.
Vegan Macaroni and Cheese: Provolone, Gouda, Aged Cheddar, Cream Cheese, Mozzarella
All vegan American favorites like M&C
There will be amazing plant-based Thanksgiving “meats” such as Turkee, Southern Hamm, Thai Coconut Curried Chikken, Créole Shrymp Jambalaya, Sage CrèmeTurkee Béchamel, Texas Beaf Brisket, Porc or Chikken Pancit, Fillet Almondine, Jamaican Jerk Chikken, Nut-based MeetLoaf, Southern-fried Chikken.
  • a variety of Holiday Stuffing dishes 
  • Roasted Rosemary Potatoes 
  • Braised Brussels Sprouts 
  • Whole-grain Organic Pasta (GF options) 
  • Traditional Cornbread Dressing 
  • Scalloped Potatoes Au Gratin 
  • non-GMO Corn side dishes 
  • a variety of Squash side dishes 
  • Southern Garden Greens Sautée 
  • Jamaican Peas & Rice 
  • Candied Yams 
  • Green Bean Casserole 
  • Mediterranean Great Grains Pilaf 
  • Bakon-wrapped Asparagus 
  • Soulful Sweet Potatoes 
  • Arroz Isla Caribeña Española (Rice) 
  • Cardamon Agave Glazed Carrots 
  • Aromatic Jasmine Rice 
  • Vegan--yes, Vegan! Giblet, Brown, Country Crème Gravy 
(dressings packaged separately)

  • Chikken Macaroni Salad
  • Vegan Potato Salad (many choices!)
  • Herbed Mesclun Greens
  • Southern Chopped Salad
  • Rhythm & Blues Deviled Hamm
  • Southwest Chikken Caesar
  • Memphis Dilled Cucumber Salad
Organic, whole-grain artisan breads, croissants, rolls, biscuits, and scones.
Variety of Organic, Whole-grain Artisan Breads and Dinner Rolls

Cakes, pies, cupcakes, sweet breads, muffins, donuts, cookies, and more!
To encourage a healthy lifestyle, we offer foods with a focus on clean eats, a cholesterol-free diet, diabetes-friendly, plant-based, and non-GMO entrées, fresh organic fruit and vegetable trays, an abundance of gluten-free choices, and a crescendo of delicious diabetic-friendly, naturally sweetened desserts.
  • Most food items are diabetic-friendly and gluten-free

Monday, November 12, 2018

Think-itation or Med-itation? (video)

Tom Bilyeau, Vishen Lakhiani (; Dhr. Seven, Crystal Q., Wisdom Quarterly
(Created by Be Inspired) Why transcendental practices beat hard work in the game of success

How to use "transcendental practices" (like meditation) to get genius ideas for business
  • How geniuses like Edison used altered states to come up with revolutionary ideas
  • Why 44% of Fortune 500 companies already use meditation for higher levels of productivity and creativity and how it’s becoming the norm in the Western world
  • Why hustling for success is a total myth and how “going within” is changing the business world.
What "transcendental practices"/meditation techniques do you use to tap into altered states? Share it in a comment below.

Free UCLA meditation sessions

MARC, Ananda M. (Dharma Meditation Initiative), Dhr. Seven, Ashley Wells, Wisdom Quarterly

Mindful Awareness, what Eckhart Tolle could call "presence," is the moment-by-moment process of actively and openly observing our physical, mental, and emotional experiences -- without clinging, resisting, or becoming deluded by them.

Mindfulness, which the Buddha called sati (smrti in Sanskrit), has scientific support as a means of improving attention, reducing stress, boosting the immune system, reducing emotional reactivity, and promoting general health and well-being.
These "drop-in" sessions are led by a professionally-trained staff: Diana Winston, Dr. Marvin Belzer, and guest teachers from MARC (Mindful Awareness Research Center). Open to everyone interested in learning how to live life more in the "present."

Dharma Meditation Initiative - MARC at UCLA - Dharma Punx - PasaDharma