Coach Stephanie Lyn (YouTube.com); Eds., Wisdom Quarterly
The illusion of narcissistic relationships
Hi.
Hi, Coach Stephanie Lyn. I was dating a gal who created the illusion of a loving relationship when in fact she was really creeping and cheating every chance she got -- then lying about it, hoodwinking me like no one before.
It happens. And you're left picking up the pieces while she off working on the next one.
Yeah, and he's a heroin addict. It's kind of funny. What a choice. What does "codependent" mean? My ex called me a "narcissist," and I looked into it. I do seem narcissistic. What I found, however, is that she seems to have a few of these features as well.
It's not uncommon.
There's a difference. She feels she was love bombed. Now I'm indifferent (having been cheated on by her more than once), whereas she actively tries to draw me into further needing her -- to keep her narcissistic supply going -- so much so that I won't dream of leaving her.
That sounds like her codependence. Here's a definition:
It is, but it's extreme like a narcissist needing "supply." There must be more than one form of supply different personality types need.
We all need something. When it's obsessive, it's a problem. She's looking for external validation, and that's a problem.
Definitely! However, I drew a firm line. I said if her behavior continued (creeping around, cultivating inappropriate intimacy with others whom she attempts to "save" but is really drawing narcissistic or codependent supply from), that would be it. It sure did continue. And I left, no contact.
What does she do?
She is an anxiously attached people pleaser, a "damaged empath" with covertly narcissistic features. She's extremely codependent. It's mind blowing to figure this out with your help.
Classic signs.
I feel duped. Do you think she has duper's delight to have tricked me, been caught, confessed, repented, and then just done it all over again with more lying to cover her tracks?
It goes much deeper than that! Codependence ruins lives.
My life feels ruined so long as I cling. When I let go, really let go, I feel all right. I accept the unhappiness, as Eckhart Tolle recommends, and find that it goes away. It can't bear to be tolerated.
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