Showing posts with label finding the one. Show all posts
Showing posts with label finding the one. Show all posts

Tuesday, June 6, 2023

When women get rejected (video)

Alpha Central, May 17, 2023; Sheldon S., Ashley Wells (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly

The best of when women get rejected
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Saturday, March 18, 2023

New flower species found in Japan: glass orchid

Mindy Weisberger, CNN, 3/17/23; Kelly Ani, Dhr. Seven (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly

A new species of orchid has been discovered in Japan, and its petals look like they’re spun from glass
In a past life, I was a Japanese flower
Sometimes newfound flower species are lurking where scientists least expect to see them — in city parks, backyard gardens, and even in planters on apartment balconies.

That’s where researchers in Japan recently identified a new species of orchid, its pink-and-white blooms so delicate and fragile they look like they were spun from glass.

The newly described flower is a neighbor to populations of a related orchid species common in Japan that it closely resembles. Its discovery is an important reminder that unknown species are often living right under our noses, scientists reported Friday in the Journal of Plant Research.

“The incredible diversity of the orchid family, Orchidaceae, is truly astonishing, and new discoveries like this Spiranthes reinforce the urgency to study and protect these botanical gems,” Justin Kondrat, lead horticulturist for the Smithsonian Gardens Orchid Collection, told CNN in an email.

Kondrat was not involved in the research. Orchids in this genus — Spiranthes — are called “ladies’ tresses” for their resemblance to wavy locks of hair. Spiranthes have a central stem, around which grow an ascending spiral of tiny, bell-shaped flowers that can be white, pink, purple, or yellow.

There are about 50 species of Spiranthes found in Eurasia, Australia, and the Americas, typically in temperate or tropical regions, and these flowers have been known in Japan for hundreds of years, according to the study.

A new species of orchid has been discovered in Japan, and its petals look like they’re spun from glass (© Provided by CNN via MSN.com). We're dubbing it the "glass orchid."

Colors of the floral newcomer's blooms vary "from purple-pink to white," researchers said.
  • Populations of the floral newcomer were discovered in Tokyo prefecture near Hachijo Island, inspiring the species name Spiranthes hachijoensis. - Masayuki Ishibashi 
Before this discovery, three species of Spiranthes orchids were found in Japan: S. australis, S. sinensis, and S. hongkongensis, and only S. australis was thought to grow on the Japanese mainland.

However, during a survey on mainland Japan over a decade ago, lead study author Prof. Kenji Suetsugu, in Kobe University’s Division of Biodiversity, Ecology, and Speciation, found something unusual: flowers presumed to be S. australis but with smooth stems. (S. australis typically has hairy stems). More

Monday, January 30, 2023

Desperation as Val's Day approaches: comedy

Iliza Shlesinger, Netflix, 2019; Ashley Wells, CC Liu, Sheldon S. (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly

How did you guys meet? Iliza Shlesinger
It's time for war paint!
(Mrs iliza) Mrs. Iliza Shelsinger tells of the woes of being an Elder Millennial in Los Angeles trying to date and find The One. How did you guys meet? | Iliza Shlesinger from Iliza Shlesinger: Unveiled (2019). This is her in her fifth Netflix stand up special, discussing marriage and its North American traditions. Director: Steve Paley. Writer: Iliza Shlesinger. Stars: Darren Capozzi, Iliza Shlesinger.  #IlizaShlesinger #Unveiled #StandUp

Wednesday, December 27, 2017

Buddhism's "The Book of the Ones"

John D. Ireland (trans.), Vagga Sutra (Itivuttaka: "This Was Said (by the Buddha)," 1.24-27); Dhr. Seven, Crystal Quintero (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly

§ 24. A Heap of Bones
This was said by the Blessed One... "Meditators, the skeletons of a single person, wandering on and running through the Wheel of Life and Death (samsara) for an aeon (kalpa), would create a heap of bones as large as this Mount Vepulla, if there were someone to collect them and if the collection were not destroyed."
 
The bones of a single person
Accumulated in a single aeon
Would make a heap
The size of a mountain —
So said the Great Sage.
 
He declared it to be
As great as Mount Vepulla
To the north of Vulture's Peak
In the hill-fort of Magadha.
 
But when one sees with perfect wisdom
The Four Noble Truths as they are —
Suffering, the origin of suffering,
The overcoming of suffering,
 
And the Noble Eightfold Path
Leading to the cessation of suffering —
Having merely run on
Seven times at most,
 
By destroying all fetters
One makes an end of suffering.

§ 25. Lying {Iti 1.25; Iti 18} 
This was said by the Blessed One... "Meditators, I say that for an individual who transgresses in one thing, there is no harmful deed whatsoever one would not do. What is that one thing? It is this, meditators: deliberately telling a lie."
 
There is no harm that cannot be done
By a person who deliberately lies,
Who transgresses in one thing,
Taking no account of the next world.

§ 26. Giving  {Iti 1.26; Iti 18} 
Dana in Thailand: woman gives to Theravada monks and novices (Bugphai/flickr.com)
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This was said by the Blessed One... "Meditators, if beings knew -- as I directly know and see -- the result of giving and sharing, they would not eat [a single morsel] without having given, nor would they allow the stain of stinginess to obsess them and take root in their minds/hearts. Even if it were their last morsel, their last mouthful, they would not eat without having shared it, if there were someone to share it with. But, meditators, as beings do not know, as I know, the result of giving and sharing, they eat without having given, and the stain of stinginess obsesses them and takes root in their minds/hearts."
 
If beings only knew —
So said the Great Sage —
How the result of sharing
Is of such great fruit,
 
With a gladdened mind/heart,
Rid of the stain of stinginess,
They would duly give to noble ones
Who make what is given fruitful.
 
Having given much food as offerings
To those most worthy of offerings,
The donors go to heaven
On departing the human state.
 
Having gone to heaven they rejoice,
And enjoying pleasures there,
The unselfish experience the result
Of generously sharing with others.

§ 27. The Development of Loving-kindness {Iti 1.27; Iti 19}

This was said by the Blessed One... "Meditators, whatever grounds there are for making merit productive of a future rebirth, all these do not equal a sixteenth part of the mind-release of loving-kindness. The mind-release of loving-kindness surpasses them and shines forth, bright and brilliant.

"Just as the radiance of all the stars does not equal a sixteenth part of the moon's radiance, but the moon's radiance surpasses them and shines forth, bright and brilliant, even so, whatever grounds there are for making merit productive of a future birth, all these do not equal a sixteenth part of the mind-release of loving-kindness...
 
"Just as in the last month of the rainy season, in the autumn, when the sky is clear and free of clouds, the sun, on ascending, dispels the darkness of space and shines forth, bright and brilliant, even so, whatever grounds there are for making merit productive of a future birth, all these do not equal a sixteenth part of the mind-release of loving-kindness...
 
"And just as in the night, at the moment of dawn, the morning star shines forth, bright and brilliant, even so, whatever grounds there are for making merit productive of a future birth, all these do not equal a sixteenth part of the mind-release of loving-kindness. The mind-release of loving-kindness surpasses them and shines forth, bright and brilliant."
 
For one who mindfully develops
Boundless loving-kindness
Seeing the destruction of clinging,
The fetters are worn away.
 
If with an uncorrupted mind
One pervades just one being
With loving kindly thoughts,
One makes some merit thereby.

But a noble one produces
An abundance of merit
By having a compassionate mind
Towards all living beings.

Those royal seers who conquered
The earth crowded with beings
Went about performing sacrifices:
The horse sacrifice, the man sacrifice,

The water rites, the soma sacrifice,
And that called "the Unobstructed."
But these do not share even a sixteenth part
Of a well cultivated mind of love,

Just as the entire starry host
Is dimmed by the moon's radiance.
One who does not kill
Nor cause others to kill,
 
Who does not conquer
Nor cause others to conquer,
Kindly towards all beings —
Has enmity for none.
 
This, too, is the meaning of what was said by the Blessed One. Thus I heard.

Tuesday, March 21, 2017

If the Buddha Dated: Finding Love Handbook

Cassi Stuckman (Cassi Yoga); Goodreads; Tory Burch; Ashley Wells (ed.), Wisdom Quarterly


If the Buddha Dated (Charlotte Kasl, Ph.D.)
I found an old journal while I was spring cleaning. If the Buddha Dated came to me during a dark period in my life.

It was like the universe created a book just for me at that time. Here were the quotes I highlighted in my journal:
 
"If you want something to happen, help it happen. If it doesn’t, let it go."

"Junk food lovers emotionally starve you."

"Obsessive thinking keeps us locked in fear."
 
Are dogs human's best friends or just men's?
"We need to open ourselves to the inevitable daily losses of living. So we can open ourselves to love. We say hello and goodbye, we feel connected one moment and disconnected the next. A tender sexual moment will never be exactly the same. Every breath we take connects us to life, then passes, before a new breath fills us. We move through new developmental and spiritual stages, daily, weekly…" More
 
18 Buddha Quotes To Help Guide You Through Life (quotesgram.com)

If the Buddha Dated: A Handbook for Finding Love on a Spiritual Path
Not My Pres. Trump loves Russian pros (WQ)
In this practical, playful, yet spiritual guide, Charlotte Kasl, Ph.D. -- author of the highly successful Finding Joy: 101 Ways to Free Your Spirit and Dance with Life -- shows us what it would be like to have the ancient wisdom of the Buddha to guide us through the dating process.

Dr. Kasl brings a compassionate understanding to the anxiety and uneasiness of new love and helps readers discover their potential for vibrant human connection based on awareness, kindness, and honesty.

She approaches the dating process as a means of awakening. We are reminded that when we live by spiritual rules, we bring curiosity and a light heart to the romantic journey.

Filled with quotations from Zen, Sufism, and other wisdom traditions, and informed by the experiences of people from all walks of life, here is a relationship book that will appeal to readers looking for more than a "Venus-meets-Mars" solution to the complex affairs of the heart. More

Love's one thing, sexual misconduct's another: White teacher molests, abducts 15-y.o. (AP)
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Melissa rated it amazing! This book is very enjoyable and supremely helpful to everyone I've known who's read it. It was highly recommended to me by a good friend about two years ago. I am about to read it again, for the third time! If you want to be open and honest with life and others, able to love them by first loving all parts of yourself and live compassionately, this book's for you! I promise it will help you to release some of your fears, false perceptions and worries. It really is so good as to make you want..." More

Saturday, October 1, 2016

How do I find a Buddhist temple? (map)

TempleMap.org; Dhr. Seven, Ashley Wells, Wisdom Quarterly
Buddhism in America revised and expanded edition (Richard Hughes Seager)
How do I find Thai Buddhist temples around the world? Search by city (templemap.org).
Psychedelic Bangkok, Theravada Buddhist Thailand: Wat Bung Thong Lang Temple at midnight on Magha Puja Day (Nattapan Suwansukho as nattapan72/flickr.com)

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Namaste with anjali mudra
There was once a great series on the Buddhist temples around the the USA. It's hard to keep track because so many new ones kept popping up. New communities set up ethnic enclaves, purchasing a residential property and turning it into a monastery or nunnery (vihara) complex, a gathering place for expats from a certain land, individuals who miss their food, culture, religious customs, and sense of familiarity. American-oriented temples arise less frequently then move as they become better known and outgrow their leases. Know of new one? Why not update Wikipedia's list?

Monday, April 11, 2016

Dating: HUNTING for Love (video)

Ziggy Win; TheWeek; Ashley Wells, Dhr. Seven, Crystal Quintero (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly
"Ziggy" is the creation of the late Tom Wilson and Tom II (universaluclick.com).



Love is a fiction we tell ourselves. It begins in the womb when momma grows fond of muttering, "That d*mn man did this to me." I overheard and, even without syntax or grammar, understood her intention.

In America searching for love is a strange thing. The creator of Match.com lost his girlfriend...she found a better match on, yes, Match.com. He considers it a triumph, as the site is meant to be very female-friendly.

Dating on each coast -- from the Great Lakes to the Keys in the Gulf, from the Jersey shore to Santa Monica and Half Moon Bay -- I ended up in the arms of a Latin-American Eurasian, who will one day produce the most beautiful babies -- blond locks on Tibetan faces.

(How To Be Single) Too smart for its own good. The smarts comes from the book it's based on, but it's dumbed down by Rebel Wilson and a very unattractive Dakota Johnson (hot in "50 Shades") who did a Felicity on her hair and ruined this venture.

The success of dating sites lies with women
Match.com founder Gary Kremen says he designed the site with women in mind. He really knew his venture was a success when his own girlfriend left him for another man she met on Match.

"You have to design the whole system for women, not men," Kremen says. "Who cares what men think? So things like security and anonymity were important. And little things, like talking about body types, not pounds. Never ask a woman her weight."


What can we learn when love has gone online? TheWeek.com answers with a quickie article on the issue.

People don't know what they want in a mate
The new algorithm, dubbed Synapse, has "taken the allure of online dating and amplified it," says David Gelles.
Instead of just running "a digital disco where it is easy to find lots of potential dates," Match now aspires to "get to know you, and what you want, better than you know yourself." And apparently that isn't too difficult.

A woman might say she only wants to date men in their 20s, but if she often clicks on 30-something males -- or even if users similar to her do -- Match figures she is open to older men.
 

"When we researched the data," says key Synapse developer Amarnath Thombre, it became clear that people's actions and their stated goals were "very different." Still, alack and alas...

Not everyone finds their love online
Despite the Synapse algorithm's notable success, "not even the most potent computers in the world, it seems, can engineer a panacea for lonely hearts," Gelles notes, or stem the disappointment that comes from meeting someone face to face who oversold him/herself online.

Plenty of Match love-seekers give up after one too many a bad date, or bad recommendations. "The Match algorithm should have figured out that I don't want a 45-year-old from New Jersey," says a 30-something professional woman from Manhattan. "Every time I log on I feel faintly insulted."

So what chance did Ziggy have? She's not Twiggy, but attractive, successful, independent, with a lot to offer. That's when she realized where she had been going wrong and how to fix it. Love is on the way. STAY TUNED

(Certify Funny) Amy Shumer, people assume she's shallow...because she's REALLY pretty. But honestly she doesn't care about her boyfriend's looks. His money is enough. Although she's thinking of getting some work done...to him. More: facebook.com, amyschumer.com

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Love Chemistry and finding The One


Spring is for spunk, but summer’s for lovin. Dr. John Sharp, Harvard psychiatrist and the author of The Emotional Calendar: Understanding Seasonal Influences and Milestones to Become Happier, More Fulfilled, and in Control of Your Life, claims it's all about timing. The time of year, that is. Summer months send us in search of The One. For advice on "seasonal dating, mating, and relating," Match.com asked Dr. Sharp for advice on each season’s potential.

Q: Are certain seasons better or worse for finding love?
A: Some people make the mistake of waiting for the most favorable of circumstances to embark on romance; others take whatever works in the moment. I am for the latter strategy -- enhanced, however, by “seasonal awareness.” More

The Chemistry of Love
When sparks fly between two people, we're quick to say they have "chemistry." Not everyone realizes that such couples literally have do have chemistry... More

Thursday, March 29, 2012

Sex and Science (video)

Amber Dorrian, Wisdom Quarterly


A week after appearing on NPR's ever popular "Science Friday" to pitch her movie, Harvard beauty is set to become a star of screen and lab.

LOSING CONTROL is a quirky romantic comedy about a female scientist who wants proof that her boyfriend is "the one."

What's a beautiful scientist to do? Moreover, how does a socially conscious movie maker get the message out to the world that we need more science literacy in place of the usual Hollywood nonsense?

Written and directed by Weiss, the film stars Miranda Kent, Reid Scott, Kathleen Robertson, Lin Shaye, and Steve Howey.

Men don't think about sex (that much)
Patt Morrison and Prof. Terri Fisher (SCPR.org)
We’ve all heard the ballpark statistics about men and their incessant daydreaming about sex.

But some new (December 2011) research by Professor of Psychology Terri Fisher from Ohio State University is throwing a little cold water on those common assumptions.

Her study showed that, while men do think about sex more than women on a daily basis, the number of times men think about sex isn’t nearly as high as we were told in school. (Men do not think about sex every seven seconds).

The reality is closer to 19 times a day for men. And surprising to some, women on average think about sex 10 times per day.

Even more surprising is the range of frequency of thoughts about sex between the genders -- men’s racy suppositions ranged between 1-388 per day, whereas women’s ranged between 1-140.

This means that there aren’t many Americans of either gender who don’t think about sex at all. But the fact remains, although less than imagined, men still think about sex more than women on average.

Sunday, March 1, 2009

Dating 101: Secrets of a Matchmaker

Erin Meanley
A professional match-maker reveals keys to successful dating
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I read a hilarious nonfiction book called "Matchbook: The Diary of a Modern-Day Matchmaker" and loved it so much, I just had to track down the author, Samantha Daniels.
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She is a former divorce lawyer turned professional matchmaker. In the book, you read about all the crazy singles she meets -- thanks to her business "Samantha's Table," which has offices in NYC and LA. She has helped over one hundred couples get married and thousands get into long-lasting relationships. Wow! I just had to ask her some questions.

Erin: Tell me about the 80-20 dating rule.

Samantha: In "Matchbook," I spoke of the 80-20 rule -- any time you meet someone who has 80% of the things you are looking for, you should realize that this is a great person for you. If you throw back into the dating pool an 80% guy, the next guy is going to be 80% again, just a different 80% because it is near impossible to find more than 80% perfect for anyone.

Erin: In your book, you talk about how important timing is with guys.

Samantha: Men need to be ready and desirous of a relationship at a particular moment to get into a relationship, whereas women can be ready at any time if they meet "the guy." Single women need to try to catch the guy when his "ready light" is on. We have all seen men end up with women who just don't seem as good for him as his last girlfriend, and this is because he wasn't ready then, but he is ready now.

Erin: Story of my life. So do you have any dating tips for our readers?

Samantha: Smile -- men want to be with a happy girl. Be open to possibilities, limit your pre-date phone chat to a minimum, and teach him early that texting only supplements phone calls and dates!

Erin: What are some red flags we should look out for?

Samantha: Beware of guys who tell you how great you are before they know how great you are, guys who have shady answers that you just don't believe, and guys who are serial daters.

Erin: I always meet younger guys. I love them, but they're never ready to get serious. Where or how can I meet single men in their 30s?

Samantha: Lounges are better than bars and clubs. Organize small dinners with your friends and their friends, and look around the gym!

Erin: I'm on it! Thanks, Samantha!

And how about that 80-20 rule? I think I meet a lot of 20-percenters, actually. But I'll be careful to look for the 80! Do you often throw good single men back into the dating pool?