Showing posts with label how to meditate. Show all posts
Showing posts with label how to meditate. Show all posts

Wednesday, October 15, 2025

Befriending Emotions: Joy Retreat (10/25)

Are personal emotions and vibes infectious? - What is Buddhist meditation?

Befriending Emotions: A Special Retreat for Joy of Living Students with Tergar Guides
Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche studied
"We don't need to look outside of the present moment to find inner peace and contentment; when experienced with awareness, everything becomes a source of joy." — Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche

At the heart of the Tergar meditation tradition lies the retreat experience, which embodies an immersive, experiential approach to learning.

This Joy of Living retreat offers a unique opportunity to create a dedicated personal practice container, while also connecting you with a global community of meditators.

WHY SHOULD I ATTEND?
My bot is training me on how to feel emotions
Gain practical tools to befriend difficult emotions, leading to greater inner peace and compassion for self and others. Participating in these retreats is essential for completing the necessary homework and progressing through the levels of the Joy of Living program. By fully engaging in the retreat experience, one can deepen one's understanding and one's meditation practice in ways that simply can't be achieved through intellectual study alone.

WHAT WILL I LEARN?

Silly, robots can't feel (yet).
In this program, participants will:
  • learn about the core principles of doing a retreat
  • receive live teachings from Tergar Guides on awareness, compassion, and wisdom 
  • get familiar with meditation techniques to help recognize innate awareness, love and compassion, and wisdom
  • learn how to integrate the teachings in daily life
WHAT IS INCLUDED IN THIS PROGRAM?
  • Live teachings with Tergar guides
  • Group meditation practice
  • Self-guided practice
  • Gentle movement practice
  • Q&A with Tergar guides
REQUIREMENTS FOR PARTICIPATION:
  • This program is open to everyone
Optional Personal Retreat Format:
Can I let my ChatGPT bot sit and feel for me?
Some participants may wish to use this retreat as part of a self-guided personal retreat, with a focus on extended daily meditation. For those aiming to complete six or more hours of sitting practice per day, the guided sessions will form part of this total, and one will add one's own independent sitting practice between, before, or after sessions to meet retreat hour goals. During these self-guided periods, one will be on one's own and responsible for structuring practice time.
  • Can I get access to a recording of this event?
Recordings of teaching sessions will be posted within one week after the end of the last session and will be available for two months.

IMPORTANT DETAILS
  • Date/Time: October 25-26, 2025. Please note that this retreat will start an hour earlier than usual. Please see full schedule. View local times
  • Registration will close one hour before the event. Full refunds will be given for cancellation requests up to one hour in advance of the event.
  • Who can attend this event? This program is open to everyone [who has completed the Joy of Living Level 1].
  • Translation from English will be offered into Spanish, Chinese, French, German, Portuguese, and Russian.

Tuesday, May 6, 2025

Free writing workshop: How to story (5/6)


WHAT HAPPENED?
New open mic: SPARC Centre Gallery
It was a full house of participants gathered on a damp and drizzly evening. Next local poetry event is May 15th, 4:00-6:00 pm at the SPARC Centre Gallery. Also in attendance were the current Poets Laureate Sehba Sarwar and Lester Graves Lennon, who announced the upcoming "Poetry & Cookies" on Saturday, May 17, 2025, 4:00-6:00 pm (with a surprise open mic portion, so sign up). A beautiful land acknowledgement to the Native Tongva (Kizh, Gabrieleno) tribe of Los Angeles and region including the Channel Islands was delivered by the head of the library to launch the evening. Handouts were given and introductions were made. Then we got to writing, prompted by the workshop leader, former library Poet Laureate Dr. Lipkin. Grief was expressed about the Eaton Fire four months after the LA Fire devastated the city.


These three submissions, written on site, stood out. A page of writing prompts was handed out with leading phrases meant to trigger the creative process and the start of a poem (prompt shown in green).

THE NIGHT WAS DARK BUT THERE WAS ONE LIGHT.
The tunnel, the train, ah, the 6:40, yes, right on time. And here by its light, the reason for my stumbling, railroad ties -- and this long slick guide, steely, cold in pointing only this way or that. You see, I can't go back. I was fated forward roam, here alone, at night, right on track, in search of some way out. Then came the breeze, a breath, fresh air cool on my face -- with something left to face, over there, one more thing, right there. The night was dark but there was one light.
The two hours raced as we each wrote four pieces -- a fairytale, elegy, persona poem, and a prompted piece. Poets love to "paint" outside the lines, so every work of creativity was its own, each somewhat elegiac for what was lost to the fire. Only a small percentage of the participants were men; one cried as did another woman, who read and read every chance she could get, apparently dying for validation.

Fire Gained a New Power

Eaton Fire burned down to Woodbury...
Who knew, not I, that Fire had the power to fly
from up to down and back again
from crest to Woodbury and even Washington
The Monster of All-Consuming Light

The Mountain Ogre who gorges on the gorge
The Fiend who in fright delights --
with wind and its own weather and lines
that arc to heaven to call down lightning strikes

Bunnies and bears, feral felines, oak-gall-eating
co'yotes, sinuous serpents skewered on spits
of dangling branches -- and
everywhere Embers

The power of flight
     The power of fire
          to take aim and consume
               all it desired as if to say

All that lumber you took with not a sign of respect,
I will fully feast on just the same

Alternate Endings

Would I have it another way, the fire?
Better it had never been?
No, there's something in it, something perfect.
The Akashic Record is a bin -- so to have it
"different" means it's somewhere the same:
IT - IS - WRITTEN.

But I would my part rearrange:
Just as every smart accused person "lawyers up,"
I'd "insurance up" in advance,
take a policy out on myself, homeowner's, full
coverage, renter's, and lots and lots of comprehensive.

You see, in every down market, someone wins.
Every "loss" is to someone's advantage.
Foresight is hindsight turned on its head
by the insertion of time, which spoils the equation.

You'll pay me how much for my cars?
I get to rebuild in the same spot?
If I'd known that, I would have sang,
"Let it burn, let it burn, let it burn."
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EVENT DETAILS
Into the Woods: Using fairy tales to tell YOUR story with Elline Lipkin
Poet Laureate Elline Lipkin
Fairy tales have been around for centuries because they capture something essential about the human experience.

In this workshop, we will use fairy tales and their tropes as inspiration to write about our own lives.

Thinking about the forest, the animals, the seasons, and the symbolic characters we find in fairy tales, we will explore the persona poem and elegy, among other exercises to spark the imagination, to celebrate and commemorate Altadena, and to process grief.
The workshop is FREE and open to the public -- all ages and backgrounds welcome.

Please bring a notebook and pen if possible; otherwise, the Altadena Library may provide writing utensils.

Anniversary of the LA Fire
The Jan. 7th fire was the worst in its history
Tuesday, May 6, 2025, marks nearly four months since the Eaton Fire devastated the Altadena community. We extend a special invitation to Altadena, Pasadena, and Sierra Madre residents and to those impacted by the Palisades Fire. Please join us to write and process experiences, releasing grief, and showing Los Angeles community resilience.
  • Tuesday, May 6, 2025, 5:30–7:30 pm
  • Altadena Main Library Community Room
  • 600 E. Mariposa Street (west of Lake Ave.)
  • Altadena, California 91001 (626) 798-0833
  • Programs — Altadena Library District
Lipkin, UChicago Graham School
ABOUT
: The presenter of this workshop is former Altadena Library Poet Laureate (2016-2018) Dr. Elline Lipkin, PhD, a poet, nonfiction writer, and academic (Prof. Elline Lipkin, UChicago, Graham School) who until the Eaton Fire had been an Altadena resident for 13 years. She holds an MFA and PhD in literature and creative writing and has been a research scholar with UCLA's Center for the Study of Women. She is the author of two books. Her third, Girl in a Forest (on triohousepress.org), is forthcoming in October 2025. She served her community for two years as Altadena Poet Laureate and editor of the Altadena Poetry Review.
Get it published in Wisdom Quarterly
Those who produce a poem worthy of attention at this workshop are encouraged to submit it to Wisdom Quarterly: American Buddhist Journal for consideration. Editors will consider submissions, and publication may be the result. Yesterday (May the 4th Be With You Day) this website had 53,000 views, and today (Cinco de Mayo) 56,000 and counting (running from 5:00 pm to 5:00 pm). Moreover, the past six months have seen 2.94 million views. So publication may draw considerable attention to your efforts.


Poetry open mic in South Pasadena

Read works of poetry, short fiction, memoir, slam, spoken word, rap, whatever in a circle of area poets at South Pasadena Arts Council SPARC Centre Gallery located at 1000 Fremont Ave., South Pasadena, third Thursdays, from 4:00-6:00 pm. FREE

WEEKLY: Meditate with Amy Rutledge (Tuesdays via Zoom)
Meditate with Amy Rutledge, virtually, on Tuesday, May 13, 2025, 6:30–7:00 pm via Zoom. All-ages are welcome. Join Amy and others for a guided half-hour meditation via Zoom in recognition of Mental Health Month. Be kind to yourself and chill in a group for 30 minutes.
ABOUT: Amy Rutledge came to the study of meditation as a path toward personal healing after struggles with the effects of Lyme disease as well as depression and anxiety. She found that it helped her in unexpected ways when many other approaches failed. More: meditatewithamy.com

Wednesday, April 2, 2025

Learn to meditate this spring (How to)

Beginning meditators are babies in white, so go easy. Meditation may make one sleepy at first.
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An outfit just for practice helps.
It's spring. This is a good time, maybe the best time, to begin a regular meditation practice,. Well, actually the best time would have been seven years ago, but the second-best time is right now. Sitting can graduate to walking meditation, mindfulness in nature, then deep stillness and clarity to see things (vipassana) as they truly are.

Do the basics: Put on all white. Find a quiet spot apart from distractions. Use this spot over and over again. It becomes powerful. Set down a mat and cushion (a bundle of leaves or grass is enough to get the tailbone higher than the knees). Sit. Inhale deeply. Release. Do it again a few times, without forcing the air out. It's just about letting go completely, so completely that the body hangs as if held up by a clothing hanger, not stiff, not slack.

Straighter is more comfortable, even though it doesn't seem like it at first. Posture is important to attention. Bring (advert) the attention to the present moment, this moment, and to stay in just this moment, remain aware of the breath. Which breath? This breath, just the one happening now all by itself. Become the watcher (not the commenter, fixer, improver, slowdowner, or anything else), just the watcher. This is mindfulness -- clear awareness of the present without evaluation.

Whoa, what a trip! What was that? I want that again!
Set a time limit in advance and keep it. Even if it would be nice to go longer because it is going so well, know the time of rising. Even if it is going horribly with raving lunatic thoughts of a psychopath with lurid fantasies and wrath, lust and revenge, delusion and a lightshow, know the time of rising. The mind will thank you later.

Ten minutes is a good start time, slowly working up to an hourlong sit. That seems impossible now, but in time, whaddyaknow, it suddenly is possible. What changed? I'dunno. This practice is about persistence. It does itself and then there is no effort. The enemies of that are expectations, unsettled greed or desire for achieving something, and the Five Hindrances. They will come to hinder. They are already present. They can be overcome. But whether or not they have been overcome, persist. This is spring. This is the beginning. Have "beginner's mind" in place of the "monkey mind" that usually rules the cage. Smile. It helps.

Instructions are confusing because it's so simple.
It is easy to say that "meditation is NOT about thinking." That's clear. That's easy to see. Don't indulge thought; just let them be by turning your attention to this subtle breath that keeps changing. What is difficult to grasp is that "meditation is NOT about not-thinking." Not-thinking may happen. It doesn't matter. As that is not the goal, if it doesn't happen, it's okay. Giving attention to one object and bringing attention back and back again and again ("Begin again" as Sharon Salzberg says) is what is important.

The mind like a petulant and insolent child will resist. Let it. Bring it back. Do not scold it or become upset. Let it be. Surrender completely to this moment, whatever is in this moment, not being moved to do anything no matter what the mind says it must do. See what happens. Could the mind be wrong no matter what it feels or demands or insists is true?

How did Siddhartha Gautama do it?
We'll never see things as they really are so long as we keep believing that we already are seeing them that way. We have never been seeing them that way. If we had, we'd awaken. We'd be enlightened, which is to say, Dependent Origination would make sense. And it doesn't, does it? (Hint: It's a practice, not a theory). That's a whole different kind of meditation called insight (vipassana) after getting good at this kind, which is called serenity (samatha). Don't jump ahead. Let it go. (If all else fails, sign up for a free 10-day Goenka retreat. Everyone should do at least one in life).

Tuesday, July 23, 2024

Tiny home of our own: Ajahn Chah Teachings


An A-frame solution full of light and two floors
What can be done to secure a spot, a quiet place to practice the Dharma, what the Buddha taught?

Having acquired the floorspace, by loan or lease, squatting or deed, it's time to set up a structure, a shelter from the elements and creeping things, nuisances and dangers.

The yurt, a Central and North Asian hut that can be carried about while being very environment-friendly, is a good option. But any hut will do, even a tent of saffron robes. Why won't Amazon, Temu, eBay, or Alibaba carry something like that. (Oh, they do?)
Avoid covered wagons pulled by slave sheep.
Level some land. Sweep away rocks or add sand. Use a vehicle as a base. That's an option. It's stable and movable. It makes a good meditation kuti to expand the mind as the heart softens and stabilizes. And now for bhavana (bringing into being, self-development, cultivation of the good).

The Teachings of Ajahn Chah
Edited by Dhr. Seven, inspired by Sayalay Aloka. This selection taken from pp. 311-316

RIGHT PRACTICE – STEADY PRACTICE
The Teachings of Ajahn Chah
AJAHN CHAH: There was a time in my practice, after I had been practicing about five years, when I felt that living with others was a hindrance. I would sit in my kuti (hut) and try to meditate.

People would keep coming by to chat, disturbing me. I ran off to live by myself. I thought I couldn’t practice with people bothering me. I was fed up, so I went to live in a small, deserted monastery in the forest, near a small village.

I stayed there alone, speaking to no one – because there was nobody else to speak to. After I’d been there about 15 days the thought arose, “Hmm, it would be good to have a novice or pa-kow [1] here with me. He could help me out with some small jobs.”
  • [1] Pa-kow: Eight-Preceptor who often lives in training with Buddhist monks (bhikkhus). In addition to his own meditation practice, he also helps with certain services that monks are forbidden from doing by the Buddhist Monastic Disciplinary Code (Vinaya).
I knew this would come up! And sure enough, here it was. So I said to myself, “Hah, you’re a real character! You say you’re fed up with your friends, fed up with your fellow monastics and novices [samanas and samaneras, wandering ascetics and little-wanderering ascetics], and now you want a novice. What’s this?”

“No,” it [my rationalization] says back, “I want a good novice.”

If mind is happy, then you are happy anywhere.
“There! Where are all the good people? Can you find any? Where are you going to find a good person? In the whole monastery there were only no-good people. You must have been the only good person to have run away like this!”

...You have to follow it up like this, follow up the tracks of your thoughts until you see... “Hmm, this is the important one. Where is there a good person to be found? There aren’t any good people. You must find the good person within yourself. If you are good in yourself then wherever you go will be good.

“Whether others criticize or praise you, you are still good. If you aren’t good, then when others criticize you, you get angry. And when they praise you, you get pleased.”

I know you're good, Homer. - STFU, B*tch!
At that time, I reflected on this and have found it to be true from that day up until the present. Goodness must be found within.

As soon as I saw this, that feeling of wanting to run away disappeared. In later times, whenever I had that desire arise, I let it go. Whenever it arose, I was aware of it and kept my awareness on it. Thus, I had a solid foundation.

Wherever I lived, whether people condemned me or whatever they would say, I would reflect that the point is not whether they were good or bad. Good or evil must be seen within ourselves. However other people are, that’s their concern.

Don’t go thinking, “Oh, today is too hot” or “Today is too cold” or “Today is....” Whatever the day is like, that’s just the way it is.

Really we are simply blaming the weather for our own laziness. We must see the Dhamma [the Truth and practices to see it the Buddha taught] within ourselves, then there is a surer kind of peace.

So for all of you who have come to practice here. Even though it’s only for a few days, still many things will arise. Many things may be arising which you’re not even aware of. There is some right thinking, some wrong thinking...many, many things.

So I say this practice is difficult. Even though some of you may experience some peace when you sit in meditation, don’t be in a hurry to congratulate yourselves.

Oh, yes, yes, now it's good and peaceful.
Likewise, if there is some confusion, don’t blame yourselves. If things seem to be good, don’t delight in them, and if they’re not good don’t be averse to them. Just look at it all. Look at what you have. Just look. Don’t bother judging. If it’s good, don’t hold on to it; if it’s bad, don’t cling to it.

Good and bad can both bite, so don’t hold fast to them. The practice is simply to sit, sit and watch it all. Good moods and bad moods come and go as is their nature. Don’t only praise your mind or only condemn it.

Know the right time for these things. When it’s time for congratulations then congratulate it, but just a little. Don’t overdo it. Just like teaching a child, sometimes you may have to spank it a little. In our practice, sometimes we may have to punish ourselves, but don’t punish yourself all the time. If you punish yourself all the time, in a while you’ll just give up the practice.

But then you can’t just give yourself a good time and take it easy either. That’s not the way to practice. We practice according to the Middle Way.

What is the Middle Way?
This Middle Way is difficult to follow. You can’t rely on your moods and desires. Don’t think that only sitting with the eyes closed is practice. If you do think this way, then quickly change your thinking!

Steady practice is having the attitude of practice while standing, walking, sitting, and lying down. [This is sati-sampajanna, "mindfulness and clear comprehension."] When coming out of sitting meditation, reflect that you’re simply changing postures. If you reflect in this way, you will have peace.

Wherever you are, you will have this attitude of practice with you constantly. You will have a steady awareness within yourself. Those who, having finished their evening sitting, simply indulge in their moods, spending the whole day letting the mind wander where it wants, will find that the next evening when sitting meditation, all they get is the “backwash” from the day’s aimless thinking. There is no foundation of calm because they have let it go cold all day.

If you practice like this, your mind gets gradually further and further from the practice.

When I ask some of my disciples, “How is your meditation going?” They say, “Oh, it’s all gone now.”

You see? They can keep it up for a month or two, but in a year or two it’s all finished. Why is this? It’s because they don’t take this essential point into their practice. When they’ve finished sitting, they let go of their samadhi [coherence, stillness]. They start to sit for shorter and shorter periods until they reach the point where as soon as they start to sit, they want to finish. Eventually they don’t even sit.

It’s the same with bowing to a Buddha image. At first, they make the effort to bow every night before going to sleep. But after a while, their minds begin to stray. Soon they don’t bother to bow at all. They just nod until eventually it’s all gone. They throw out the practice completely.

Ah, like this, the mind settles quickly. I'm calm.
Therefore, understand the importance of sati [mindfulness, bare awareness, not discursive thinking but being with and accepting what is happening now without abandoning ourselves].

Practice it constantly. Right practice is steady practice. Whether standing, walking, sitting, or reclining, the practice must continue. This means that practice, meditation, is done in the mind, not in the body.

If our mind has zeal, is conscientious and ardent, then there will be awareness [nonabsentmindedness, nonforgetting, presence]. The mind is the important thing. The mind is that which supervises everything we do.

When we understand properly then we practice properly. When we practice properly, we don’t go astray. Even if we only do a little, that is still all right.

For example, when you finish sitting in meditation, remind yourselves that you are not actually finishing meditation. [Mindfulness meditation continues all the time.] You are simply changing postures. Your mind is still composed. Whether standing, walking, sitting, or reclining, you have sati with you.

If you have this kind of awareness, you can maintain your internal practice. In the evening when you sit again, the practice continues uninterrupted. Your effort is unbroken, allowing the mind to attain calm. This is called steady practice.

Whether we are talking or doing other things, we make the practice continuous. If our mind has recollection and self-awareness continuously, our practice will naturally develop. It will gradually come together. The mind will find peace, because it will know what is right and what is wrong. It will see what is happening within us and realize peace.

If we are to develop sila (virtue, moral restraint) or samadhi (firmness of mind), we must first have pañña (wisdom). Some people think that they’ll develop moral restraint one year, samadhi the next, and the year after that they’ll develop wisdom. They think these three things are separate.

They think that this year they will develop, but if the mind is not firm (samadhi), how can they do it? If there is no understanding (pañña), how can they do it? Without samadhi or pañña, sila will be sloppy. 

In fact, these three come together at the same point. When we have sila (restraint), we have calm (samadhi); when we have samadhi, we have understanding (pañña). They are all one like a mango.

Whether it’s small or fully grown, it’s still a mango. When it’s ripe, it’s still the same mango. If we think in simple terms like this, we can see it more easily. We don’t have to learn a lot of things just to know these things, to know our practice.

Don't Look Down on Defilements: They Will
Laugh at You
(Ashin Tejaniya)
When it comes to meditation, some people don’t get what they want
. So they just give up, saying they don’t yet have the merit to practice meditation. They can do bad things. They have that sort of talent, but they don’t have the talent to do good. They throw in the towel, saying they don’t have a good enough foundation.

This is the way people are. They side with their defilements.

Now that you have this chance to practice, please understand that whether you find it difficult or easy to develop samadhi, is entirely up to you not the samadhi.

If it is difficult, it is because you are practicing wrongly. In our practice we must have “right view” (samma-ditthi).

...If our view is right, then everything else is right:
  1. right view,
  2. right intention,
  3. right speech,
  4. right action,
  5. right livelihood,
  6. right effort,
  7. right mindfulness,
  8. right stillness – the enlightening Eightfold Path.
When there is right view, all the other factors [of this Eightfold Path] will follow. Whatever happens, keep the mind from straying off the track. Look within and you will see clearly.

For the best practice, as I see it, it isn’t necessary to read many books. Take all the books and lock them away. Just read your own mind.

It's good to read. I like reading. I get lost in books
You have all been burying yourselves in books from the time you entered school. I think that now you have this opportunity and have the time, so take the books, put them in a cupboard, and lock the door.

Just read your mind. Whenever something arises within the mind, whether you like it or not, whether it seems right or wrong, just cut it off with, “This is not a sure thing.”

Whatever arises just cut it down, reminding yourself, “Not sure, not sure.”

With just this single axe, you can cut it all down. It’s all “not sure.”

Sophia (Khema Theri), Goddess of Wisdom
For the duration of this next month that you will be staying in this forest monastery, you should make a lot of headway. You will see the Truth. This “not sure” is really an important one. This one develops wisdom.

The more you look, the more you will see the “not-sure-ness.” After you’ve cut something off with “not sure,” it may come circling round and pop up again.

Yes, it’s truly “not sure.” Whatever pops up, just stick this one label on it all: “not sure.” You stick the sign on, “not sure.” And in a while, when its turn comes, it crops up again. “Ah, not sure.” Dig here! Not sure.

You will see this same old one who’s been fooling you month in month out, year in year out, from the day you were born. There’s only this one who’s been fooling you all along. See this and realize the way things are.

When your practice reaches this point, you won’t cling to sensations, because they are all uncertain.

Have you ever noticed this? Maybe you see a clock and think, “Oh, this is nice!” Buy it and see. In not many days, you’re already bored with it.

“This pen is really beautiful,” so you take the trouble to buy one. In not many months, you tire of it again. This is how it is.

Where is there any certainty? If we see all these things as uncertain, then their value fades away. All things become insignificant. Why should we hold on to things that have no value?

We keep them only as we might keep an old rag to wipe our feet with. We see all sensations as equal in value because they all have the same nature.

When we understand sensations, we understand the world. The world is sensations, and sensations are the world. If we aren’t fooled by sensations, we aren’t fooled by the world. If we aren’t fooled by the world, we aren’t fooled by sensations.

The mind that sees this will have a firm foundation of wisdom. Such a mind will not have many problems. Any problems it does have it can solve. When there are no more problems, there are no more doubts.

Peace arises in their stead. This is called “practice.” If we really practice, it must be like this. More
  • Ajahn Chah, The Teachings of Ajahn Chah (pp. 311-316) edited and rearranged by Dhr. Seven, with help from American DRC and Sayalay Aloka (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly