Friday, December 27, 2024

LUST: Bodies are sexy and beautiful

You're, like, a total hottie and that makes me feel something gooey on, like, the inside, y'know?
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The body (form) is thought to be most obviously “me,” what “I” regard as the most tangible part of my “self.”

Around it therefore are constructed many views, all of them distorted and perverted to some extent, which prevent insight arising into the body as it really is.

This book, Bag of Bones, is a small Buddhist anthology relating to the body in various ways. It presents material which, if contemplated by the earnest and sincere student of the Dharma, will eventually provide fruitful insight and, thereby, freedom from the many cravings, obsessions, addictions, lusts, desires, and fears centered on the body.

Such thirst for pleasures in which the body is the instrument (though it is in the heart-mind where they dwell), awaken and intensify greed of all kinds, for instance, for food and sex and ego boosts of all kinds.

Greed (attraction, grasping, clinging, addiction, attachment) often accompanies pleasurable sensations. Therefore, desire (craving) needs a rather bitter medicine to combat it.

How can anybody say this body is unattractive?
So the number of items contained here on the unattractiveness of the body, its decay and death — all unpleasant matters — is high. Some of the material concerned with bodily unattractiveness is like a healing balm that need only be taken while the disease of greedy-lust is active. Afterwards, it may be discontinued and set aside.

It is important to understand this so as not to form the mistaken impression that the Buddha advocated viewing all beauty as loathsome. There is a great deal of beauty in this world, not all of which causes us to become obsessed with harmful things.

It is only that there is a hook hidden in beauty, an unseen danger that gets tangled with the greed in one’s heart and leads to more and more complications and difficulties.

Fears center around aging and disease, decay and death. They are never overcome by pretending they do not exist. Ostriches are said to bury their heads in the sand at the approach of enemies.

Only resolutely facing the inevitable features of life can bring insight and the dispelling of fear. The Buddha’s instructions on how to contemplate the body are addressed to those who are able, through their lifestyle, to practice them.

This means in effect monks and nuns, novices, together with dedicated lay people. The former group have this contemplation given to them by their monastic teachers at the time of going-forth from the homebound to the left-home life, which is when we might most need such a medicine to combat lust.

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Lust hurts and often harms anyone, but it can completely destroy the high life of someone training in monasticism.

Laypeople keeping the Five Precepts have contentment with their partners as an important part of their practice. Sex is a natural part of their life but should still be restrained and kept within the bounds of the Third Precept. If not, how much trouble might follow!

But some few may wish to live without sexual attachments, and this cannot be done in the way of Dhamma (the Buddha's Teaching or natural truth) by ignoring the power of our human sexual drive or by repressing and suppressing it.

Only when it is treated with mindfulness (nonjudgmental awareness and observation) can it be transcended. It does not last forever. It is overcome by the first meditative absorption and uprooted by the stages of enlightenment.

The aspect of mindfulness needed for this is the subject, or rather the interrelated subjects, of this book.

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In today's world we are subjected to a mass media bombardment of sensuality. Sex especially is used as the bait (attractant) to sell things, a titillation of sensory experience.

When this is continued, defilements of mind, notably lust, greed, and attachment, are sure to be strengthened. When this has happened, the result is not more happiness but only an increase of disappointment (dukkha, stress, ill, woe), suffering, trouble, and difficulties.

I stared until they started to look like skeletons, bags of bones, all of them. I ought to let go, become a monk, and gain enlightenment because flesh and bones are gross. I didn't tell them.
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The medicine for such over-indulgence and over-stimulation is given here. It is said that this subject of meditation is unique to the Buddha’s Teachings, the Dhamma, and that elsewhere it is not clearly taught.

This is unsurprising as we find that desire is sometimes accepted as being “natural.” Wherever desires are viewed as “natural,” that is, inherent in one’s nature or self, nothing much can be done about them.

But the Buddha analyzed desires into those which are wholesome — the zeal to practice Dhamma, for instance — and the unwholesome ones, among which are greediness and lust.

They may not be gross either, as in the case of the meditator who is greedy for bliss, or visions, psychedelic experiences, and attached to such things.

The Buddha has provided the medicine for all unwholesome desires, and according to our various ways of life we can use it to effect partial or complete cures.

When the emphasis is so much on sensuality, youth, and beauty as we find now, the darker sides of life get pushed away and attempts are made, always unsuccessful, to sweep them under the rug. Those who try to do so will not be pleased with the exercises contained in the Buddha’s contemplation of the body as it really is.
Look at those breasts and butt colon!
Such things will appear to them as morbid and unnatural, offensive and repulsive. Yet, they are also a part of this life and should not be ignored. And if the effort is made to ignore what is unpleasant about the body, sooner or later one will be jolted into the recognition of these things.

Such jolts are not pleasant. Rather than leave it until one is forced to know the body’s unpleasant sides, it is better to acquaint one’s emotions with this knowledge gradually. In this spirit, Bag of Bones is being published.

Unfortunately, being only a book, it cannot give person-to-person advice on special problems. It can only offer some general guidelines to people who are interested in reducing their greediness and lust.

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A word of warning: meditation on the unattractiveness of the body can be very potent and should only be practiced with moderation and care, especially if one has no personal contact with a teacher of Buddhist meditation.

If fear and anxiety, or other extreme unwholesome emotional states arise after practice of it, then it will be better to lay it down and take up loving kindness (mettā) or recollection of the Buddha (Buddhānussati) as one’s meditation instead.

This book, therefore, is not so much for beginners in Buddhism but rather for those who have already practiced for some time. May it inspire many people to practice the Dhamma more intently!

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