Wednesday, January 18, 2017

Sex: Why do men cheat? (video)

Shmuley Boteach (Big Think); Emily Hart; Ashley Wells, Crystal Quintero, Wisdom Quarterly
Shmuley Boteach, an American Orthodox rabbi, is author of Kosher Lust: Love is Not the Answer.

Let me tell you why.
Why Men Cheat is explained by Rabbi Shmuley Boteach. How would a rabbi know? He counsels a lot of couples and a lot of distressed men. Boteach argues that men have affairs not so much for the sex itself -- it goes much deeper. It's because their low self-esteem requires constant affirmation. The sex in the equation doesn't hurt, but it also doesn't explain the behavior. They would resort to prostitutes if it did. It would certainly be a lot easier, if much more skanky and dangerous and disgusting to your partner. Do what you want to, but how will you ignore karma?

WARNING: Profanity! "10 Reasons Why" with funny British Emily Hart
When is sex "sexual misconduct"?
NOTE: Wisdom Quarterly affirms sex work as an occupation if it does not exploit, demean, or otherwise bring about harm to the parties involved. That's a tall order because harm is almost certainly, though not necessarily, going to be involved. It is not a great choice, but it is a choice. For often sexist US society does not provide viable options to females who find that they desperately need money. Adults may make their own choices, legal or not, whereas all children involved in sex work are being trafficked in modern slavery. But a prostitute with a married man is still herself a cheater, along with the man, by Buddhism's definition of "sexual misconduct" or kamesu micchacara. So is it really worth it.

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