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Sunday, June 15, 2025

Father Homer reborn. How to treat parents

Siddhartha Gautama, Scythian Shakyamuni
Thus have I heard. On one occasion the Blessed One [the Buddha] was living near Savatthi at Jetavana in Anathapindika's monastery.

Then in the forenoon, having dressed, he took bowl and [double] robe, and entered the city of Savatthi for alms.

Now at that time the Brahmin Aggika Bharadvaja was at home preparing a fire ceremony to make oblations (burnt offerings) to his God.

The Blessed One came to that Brahmin's residence. And the Brahmin, seeing the Blessed One from afar, yelled at him:

"Stay there, shaveling! Stay there, wretched wandering ascetic! Stay there, outcast!"

When he spoke this way, the Blessed One said to the Brahmin: "Do you know, Brahmin, who an outcast is and what the conditions are that make one an outcast?"

The Buddha was much respected.
"Actually, no, Venerable Gautama, I do not know who an outcast is nor the conditions that make one an outcast. It would be good if Venerable Gautama were to explain the Dhamma to me so that I might know who an outcast is and what the conditions are that make one an outcast."
  • [The abusive terms used by the Brahmin and the respectful address that follows need a word of explanation. The Brahmin had just prepared his offering to his God, Great Brahma, when his eyes fell upon the Buddha. To the Brahmin the sight of a wandering ascetic (samana), a shaven-headed recluse, is an unlucky omen. So he burst into angry words. The Buddha, however, was unruffled and spoke to him gently in words with a soft cadence. The Brahmin was apparently ashamed of his unskillful outburst and, repenting of his folly, addressed the Buddha courteously. Commentary: Note the Buddha's emphasis on anger and hatred in his very first stanza.]
"Listen then, Brahmin, and pay attention. I will explain."

"Yes, Venerable Sir," replied the Brahmin.

1. "Whoever is angry, harbors hatred, and is reluctant to speak well of others [discredits the good of others], perverse in views, deceitful — know that person as an outcast.

2. "Whoever in this world kills living beings, once born or twice born,* in whom there is no sympathy for living beings — know that person as an outcast.
  • [*Dvijam, birds, are "twice-born" in that they are first born as an egg and then are born again out of their shells when they hatch.]
3. "Whoever destroys and besieges villages and hamlets and becomes notorious as an oppressor — know that person as an outcast.

4. "Be it in village or forest, whoever steals what belongs to others, what is not freely given — know that person as an outcast.

5. "Whoever having actually incurred a debt runs away when pressed to pay it, saying, 'I owe no debt to you' — know that person as an outcast.


6. "Whoever, coveting anything, kills a person going along the road, and grabs whatever that person has — know that person as an outcast.

7. "One who for one's own sake or for the sake of another or for the sake of wealth, utters lies when questioned as a witness — know that person as an outcast.

8. "Whoever by force [rape] or with consent [adultery] associates with the spouses of relatives or friends — know that person as an outcast.

Good karma: Treat parents like buddhas.
9. "Whoever having wealth supports not one's own mother and father who have grown old — know that person as an outcast.

10. "Whoever strikes and annoys by [harsh] speech, mother, father, brother, sister, mother-in-law, or father-in-law — know that person as an outcast.

11. "Whoever, when questioned about what is good, says what is detrimental, and talks in an evasive manner — know that person as an outcast.

12. "Whoever, having committed an unskillful deed, wishes that it may not be discovered by others, and commits harm in secret — know that person as an outcast.

13. "Whoever, having gone to another's house and partaken of choice food, does not honor that host by offering food when receiving a visit — know that person as an outcast.

14. "Whoever deceives a Brahmin priest or wandering ascetic or any other mendicant [alms person] by uttering lies — know that person as an outcast.

15. "Whoever when a Brahmin or wandering ascetic appears during mealtime angers that person by harsh speech and does not offer that person [any alms] — know that person as an outcast.

16. "Whoever in this world, shrouded by ignorance, speaks harsh words (asatam) or falsehood [asantamtipi patho (SnA)] expecting to gain something — know that person as an outcast.

17. "Whoever, debased by pride, exalts oneself and belittles others — know that person as an outcast.

18. "Whoever is given to anger, is miserly, has base desires, and is selfish, deceitful, shameless, and fearless [in doing what is unskillful] — know that person as an outcast.

19. "Whoever reviles the Enlightened One [the Buddha], a disciple of the Buddha, a recluse, or a householder — know that person as an outcast.

20. "Whoever not being an enlightened person, a consummate one, pretends to be one, is a thief in the whole universe — the lowest of outcasts.

21. "Not by birth is one an outcast; not by birth is one a Brahmin. By deed one becomes an outcast, and by deed one becomes a Brahmin.

22. "Know by the example now cited [the fact that by birth one is not an outcast]: There was an outcast's son, Sopaka, who became known as Matanga.

23. "This Matanga attained the highest fame difficult to gain. Many were the warriors (kshatriyas) and Brahmins who went to attend on him.

24. "Mounting the celestial chariot [the Noble Eightfold Path, and driving] along the passion-free high road, [Sopaka, now a monk], reached the Brahma realm having given up sense-desires.

25. "His [lowly] birth did not prevent him from being reborn in the Brahma realm. There are Brahmins born in the family of preceptors, kinsmen of [Vedic] hymns.

26. "They are often seen committing unskillful deeds. In this life itself they are despised, in the next they are reborn in an unfortunate state of existence. High birth does not prevent them from falling into a woeful state or from censure [here and now].

27. "Not by birth is one an outcast; not by birth is one a Brahmin. By deed one becomes an outcast, and by deed one becomes an Brahmin."

Honoring the worthy ones is good karma.
When the Buddha had spoken, the Brahmin Aggika Bharadvaja said to him:

"Excellent, O Venerable Gautama, excellent! O Venerable Gautama, it is just as if a person were to set upright what had been overturned, or were to reveal what had been hidden, or were to point the way to one who had gone astray, or were to hold an oil lamp to the dark so that those with eyes might see things, even so in many ways has Venerable Gautama expounded the Dharma, the Doctrine.

"I go for guidance (sarana) to Venerable Gautama, the Dharma, and the [Arya-] Sangha [the community of those disciples along the stages of enlightenment]. May Venerable Gautama accept me as a lay follower who has gone for guidance from this day onwards so long as life lasts."
  • The Simpsons; Ven. Piyadassi Thera (trans.), Vasala Sutra: "The Discourse on Outcasts" (Sn 1.7, PTS Sn 116-142), 1999, edited by Ashley Wells, Dhr. Seven, Pat Macpherson, Wisdom Quarterly, orig. published 6/21/20

Sunday, March 3, 2024

California blizzard 100 mph winds, 12 ft snow

Jon. Petramala, 3/2/24; WXChasing; ABC7 News Bay Area; TODAY; Eds., Wisdom Quarterly

(Jonathan Petramala) March 2, 2024: Experience the chaos in this short documentary, showing firsthand the impacts as a blizzard blankets Northern California, leaving hundreds stranded on Donner Pass I-80 for hours...including us (the camera crew)! What's for dinner? It may be us if we're not careful. Witness the harrowing scenes of snow piling many feet high, trapping drivers in their vehicles overnight. Wicked winds gusting over 100 miles per hour, closing the freeway, Interstate 80. Power is knocked out to thousands. Feet of snow will continue to fall through the end of the first weekend in March. And there's another storm on its way.
  • 00:00 Intro
  • 01:34 The first I-80 closure in the storm
  • 03:00 Category 2 hurricane force winds
  • 04:13 Snowshoeing in a blizzard
  • 07:27 Stuck with a [delicious] toddler in a blizzard
  • 12:00 I-80 closes, stranding hundreds of drivers
  • 13:00 The 2-wheel drive problem
  • 15:00 CHP clears highway
  • 16:33 Towing a news van
Help support independent journalism and by liking and subscribing to this channel. Also, please consider becoming a member. For raw video of this epic California snowstorm, check out @wxchasing on YouTube.

Powerful blizzard slams West Coast with up to 12 feet of snow
(TODAY) March 3, 2024: Residents in the mountains of California and Nevada are hunkering down as a new blizzard threatens to bring many feet of snow. White-out conditions have closed a major interstate and caused power outages across the region [with wind gusts of up to 100 MPH so that even bears are emerging out of the California redwood forests because it's too cold (now that they do not hibernate due to climate changes)]. NBC’s Steve Patterson reports for Sunday TODAY. #Blizzard #California #Weather

(Foresty Forest) Life in a 4x4 Van: Camping in Lake Tahoe for the blizzard
(WXChasing) Truckee, CA, digs out from epic blizzard of 2024: Tow trucks
recover dozens of tractor trailers buried in snow, some  up to the windows.


Bears come out as Sierra snowstorm moves in
(ABC7 News Bay Area) March 1, 2024: As the snowstorm comes in the Sierra, the black bears are coming out of hibernation. Experts warn people to keep coolers outside and not leave food in the car because bears will break in if they smell a trace of anything. https://abc7ne.ws/4c05nby #laketahoe #sierra #weather #snow #storm #bears #abc7news

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Tuesday, January 30, 2024

Butterfly Effect, Chaos Theory, Predictions

Fexl, Jan. 21, 2024; Sheldon S., Seth Auberon (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly

The most terrifying theory scientists don’t want to talk about
(Fexl) To play the Chaos Game (geogebra.org/m/yr2XXPms), I set the number of points at 3, clicked start, and set the speed to "fast." The key takeaway of Chaos Theory is this: even when one's equations are perfectly deterministic, one cannot know the initial conditions of arbitrary sensitivities. What is “chaos”? It is when the present determines the future, but the approximate present does not approximately determine the future.

Saturday, October 14, 2023

Israeli soldiers sorry for Israel's war crimes

AlternateFocus, Oct. 7, 2006; Pfc. Sandoval, Sheldon S., CC Liu (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly
What does it mean to be Jewish? It used to mean telling the truth. Fortunately, some still do.

Burning Conscience: Israeli Soldiers Speak Out
(AlternateFocus) A searing interview with former Israeli soldiers Avichai Sharon and Noam Chayut, both veterans of the IDF (Israeli "Defense" Forces) and members of Breaking the Silence (BreakingTheSilence.org.il).

Sharon and Chayut served during the second Intifada ("Uprising"), a bloodbath that claimed the lives of over 3,000 Palestinians and 950 Israelis.

After thorough introspection, these young Jewish men have chosen to speak out about their criminal experiences as self-described "brutal occupiers of a disputed land."

Producer: Sat Gwin Alternate Focus is available on the Dish Network, Free Speech TV, Channel 9415, Saturdays at 8:00 pm EST and on nearby cable stations. Check alternatefocus.org for details.

Monday, September 18, 2023

Real reason "TRANS" is exploding (video)

H. Joyce, Triggernometry, 6/16/23; GBN, 5/8/22; CC Liu, Sheldon S. (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly
(Muse) Is it all thought contagion, social contagion, or have so many young people always dreamed of being gay, gender non-conforming transsexual, crossdressing, transgender individuals with surgery scars to prove it?

The real reason trans is exploding
Trans: Ideology Meets Reality
(Triggernometry) Helen Joyce (thehelenjoyce.com) is the author of Trans: When Ideology Meets Reality and the director of advocacy for "Sex Matters," a campaign group on a mission to re-establish that sex matters in rules, laws, policies, language, and culture.

This is a clip of Joyce discussing the various pathways to transgenderism (and de-transitioning by people who regret surgery, hormone blockers, mastectomies, and irreversible physical harm by the medical field) for teenage girls, young men, and older men in 2023. 


"Sex is not assigned at birth": Author Helen Joyce speaks about her book Trans: When Ideology Meets Reality (GBNews) Watch on TV: Freeview 236, Sky 515, Virgin 626. #interview #gender #lgbt

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Friday, June 16, 2023

Zen monk: No. 1 Thing About Happiness

Contributor Jeffrey Marsh, CNBC, 6/15/23; CC Liu, Crystal Q. (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly
Koans are an integral component of Zen practice: What's the sound of one hand slapping?

I lived as a monk and studied Zen for 20 years: Here’s the No. 1 thing people miss about happiness
Maura O'Hollaran left Boston
Many of us are taught to believe that we need to be in perfect control of our lives in order to be successful or accepted. But that mindset made me unhappy for years.

Growing up nonbinary, I spent a lot of time escaping to an imaginary world where I controlled everything, including what other people thought of me.

I constantly chased this idea that if I could just get that partner, that job, or that money and acclaim, I could finally relax and be happy.

To break this toxic mental habit, I did something drastic: I moved to the woods and lived among a community of Buddhists.
  • *This is an adapted [and edited] excerpt from Take Your Own Advice by Jeffrey Marsh (published by TarcherPerigee, an imprint of Penguin Publishing Group, a division of Penguin Random House, LLC) Copyright © 2023 by Jeffrey Marsh.
I have since spent 20 years studying Zen Buddhism. At the monastery, I learned a valuable lesson about happiness that people often overlook:

We can't control everything that happens to us, but we can control how we [react and how we] treat ourselves.

Allowing ourselves to feel happy, no matter what our life looks like, is the key to real happiness.

Struggling for control won't make us happier
Leonard Cohen went from Hollywood up into the woods of LA's Zen Mountain Center.
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Why? When we hold on to the need for control, we start to feel responsible for all outcomes of our life. But can we really control what people think of us, or who does or doesn't give us a chance, or who we'll date, or where we'll get a job?

Julia found happiness in a tree named Luna.
We might have some say in these things, but so much of life is unpredictable — and that's part of what makes it beautiful. Unpredictability connects us all.

Another problem with the need to control is that it makes us constantly chase after a life we aren't living, making it hard to appreciate the one we do have.


For example, right now, we might be worried about finding the perfect partner. In a few years, it might be finding the perfect job.

How to let go of the desire to control

If I controlled love then I'd be happy.
If we FREE ourselves from the need to control everything, we can experience more happiness and gratitude RIGHT NOW in the present.

Here are some ways to get started:

1. Stop and reflect. Let's think about all the ways we're focusing on an imaginary future instead of the present. We can ask ourselves:
  • Do we sometimes let our need to control the future get in the way of enjoying the present moment?
  • When do we tend to do that and why? It is essential to honor our dreams, but how can we put some of that energy into the most important things in our life today?
  • What can we be grateful for right now?
Living on Luna, saving trees, made me happy
2. Redefine unrealistic expectations we set for ourselves. Can we find that voice in our head that keeps reminding us of the need for control?
  • Let's tell that voice, in no uncertain terms, that we are not living to impress it.
  • Imagine living a life where that inner voice is irrelevant.
  • Instead, we can direct that energy toward things that give us a sense of joy and peace.
3. Let's allow ourselves to be happy in the present moment.
  • Let's close our eyes, take three slow breaths, and give ourselves permission to feel happy. 
If I move to the woods, can I meditate Zen?
TIPS: When we find ourselves struggling, think about why that is.

I've found that when people think about giving up control and letting life guide them, fear can get in the way. There will always be stressful situations that need our attention, like taking care of the people in our life.

But we can let happiness in by shifting our focus from future-oriented fears to the present.

We deserve to roll with the life we've got. We deserve to flow with the unexpected and not "have it all together."

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Jeffrey Marsh (they/them) is one of the world's foremost commentators on nonbinary identity and activism. Their TikToks and compassionate short-form videos have garnered over one billion views. Marsh's How To Be You was the first nonbinary memoir, and they are the first nonbinary author to sign a book deal with any "Big 5" publisher worldwide. Their latest book, Take Your Own Advice, is out now.
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Thursday, June 8, 2023

Detox from Dopamine (video)

Better Than Yesterday, Feb. 24, 2020; Pat Macpherson, Ashley Wells (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly

How I tricked my brain to like doing "hard" things
(Better Than Yesterday) Most of us probably have no problem playing videogames or browsing social media on a smartphone. In fact, no doubt we could sit in front of screens and do both for hours or longer without breaking our concentration.

But what about half an hour of studying? That might be too hard. How about working on our side business for an hour? Doesn't sound too appealing. Even though logically we know that studying, exercising, building a business or something equally productive will bring us more benefits in the long run, we still prefer watching TV, playing games, and scrolling through social media.

One might argue that it's obvious why this is. One activity is easy and doesn't require much effort, while the other is difficult and requires us to apply ourselves.
e people more motivated to tackle difficult things? Moreover, is there a way to make doing difficult things easy?

However, some people seem to have no problem regularly studying, exercising, or working on their side projects. This begs the question, Why are som

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Thursday, August 27, 2020

Outing bad Kenosha cop Rusten Sheskey

Lee Brown (New York Post, Aug. 26, 2020); Sheldon S., Ashley Well (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly











BLM activist Shaun King threatens to name innocent cops as Jacob Blake shooter
Accused fraudster Shaun King is threatening to name innocent cops as Jacob Blake’s shooter if the Kenosha Police Department doesn’t release the identity of the officer who did, [according to allegedly biased reporter].

“If you do not name the officer who brutally shot Jacob Blake on Sunday, we will simply begin naming officers from your department who may or may not be him,” the pro-police-reform Black Lives Matter activist threatened online.

“F–k it. Your protection of his identity is unethical. What’s his name?” King wrote in a message “to the Kenosha Police Department” that he pinned to the top of his Twitter thread.

The Brooklyn-based King later tweeted the names of two Kenosha officers.

In one case, he named an officer, saying “people thought he shot Jacob Blake.” In the other, he asked followers to compare photos of a named officer and an unnamed cop on the scene of the shooting.

“POLICE COULD END THIS RIGHT NOW. They are deliberately protecting the man who shot Jacob. What’s his name?” he wrote. More