Perfectionism: Taking the Easy Way

Amber Larson, Dhr. Seven, Wisdom Quarterly; Brianna Sacks (k llingthebuddha.com)

"K lling the Buddha" is a glib koan that became a Mahayana slogan for "do not put idols on pedestals." We can become awakened without depending on others, that is, when we awaken, the truth we realize does not depend on anyone or anything. But getting their does depend on noble friendship. So even the thought of harming the Buddha, a liberator, offends Theravada sensibilities. It makes light of one of the Five Heinous Karmic Acts.

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Brianna Sacks (Huffington Post/USC)

Surrounded by ten other cross-legged and deeply breathing bodies rooted still in the thick India morning air, I felt a sense of triumph. I -- the buzzing, over-stimulated American -- was meditating.

 

My screaming hips and lower back quivered in resistance as I focused on the gentle rocking of my long breaths, silently repeating, “Hong Sau” as the monks directed. Swaddled in a red felt blanket under the swaying mosquito net of the Ananda Ashram’s makeshift temple, I had won. That’s how I saw my dip into the spiritual world -- something to check off my accomplishment list.

 

Some did try to kill the Buddha like Angulimala.

I pray to no religious leader, nor do I seek guidance from a higher power. I am a disciple of the great American religion of ambition.

• [Be lamps (dipa) unto yourselves, be islands (dipa) unto yourselves taking no other as a lamp or island with only the Dharma as your guide was the historical Buddha's final admonition (DN 16). See exact wording below.]

It hasn’t always been that way. Two very loving, comforting, metaphysically aligned parents brought me into this world, and I thank these people for my unique, spiritual childhood -- parents who often meditated against the trunk of an ancient oak tree shadowing our home because of its “powerful energy” or gathered with their handful of spiritual friends, who opened chakras and performed healing treatments. At breakfast my brother and I discussed last night’s dreams from our booster seats. Crystals and worn, ripped copies of the Kabbalah were my playthings. Everything smelled like incense. I sang Hebrew blessings over my preschool lunches, attended Hebrew school, was bat-mitzvahed, and later dabbled in Christian youth groups and momentarily found Jesus.

 

“Meditate, it will save you,” is what I grew up hearing. But I couldn’t.

When I was six, my parents asked me to draw the hurt in my soul because, as my mother says, I was born with a painful wound burrowed into my being. They kept the drawing -- one of a gray, black mass resembling a cave that lived inside my giant red, lopsided heart.

 

My mother calls me a machine, a robot wrought of skin and bone that can always push harder, do more, be better.
 

My unrelenting quest for perfection often produces debilitating panic attacks and pitfalls of depression. The number of times I have spent trapped in my car, hyperventilating, sobbing, trying to breathe into the phone while my mom on the other end of the line tries to calm me begs the question: “What am I chasing?”

Pausing, forcing myself to pull back the restless, insecure pieces of myself and look deep inside is a task I have been running from, fearing that if I do, I will get lost.

 

“You’re already lost” is a thought that often rings far off in my consciousness. But ambition is still my accepted method of self-torture.

 

So when I learned that my journalism class would be spending almost three days at the Ananda Ashram in Pune, India, before our reporting week in Mumbai [Bombay], I silently cursed everything. 

 

Meditation, which had haunted me my entire life, would put me on lockdown. In rural India, surrounded by grey shrubs, slow, shriveled cows, and red mountains, I would not be able to escape. More

What the Buddha said at the end
"The Great Final-Nirvana Discourse" (Maha Parinirvana Sutra, DN 16.33-35)

Theravada: The Buddha reclining into final nirvana, Thailand (DennisonUy/flickr)

 
33. "Therefore, Ananda, be lamps/islands (dipa) unto yourselves, guides (sarana) unto yourselves, seeking no external guide, with the Dharma as your island, the Dharma as your guide, seeking no other guide.
 
"And how, Ananda, is a disciple an island unto oneself, a guide unto oneself, seeking no external guide, with the Dharma as one's island, the Dharma as one's guide, seeking no other guide?
 
34. (1) "When one dwells contemplating (satipatthanas or The Four Foundations of Mindfulness) the body in the body, earnestly, clearly comprehending, and mindfully, after having overcome hankering and sorrow with regard to the world; (2) when one dwells contemplating feelings in feelings, (3) the mind in the mind, and (4) mental objects in mental objects, earnestly, clearly comprehending, and mindfully, after having overcome hankering and sorrow with regard to the world, then, truly, one is an island unto oneself, a guide unto oneself, seeking no external guide, having the Dharma as one's island, the Dharma as one's guide, seeking no other guide.
 
35. "Those disciples of mine, Ananda, who now or after I am gone, abide as a island unto themselves, as a guide unto themselves, seeking no other guide, having the Dharma as their island and guide, seeking no other guide: it is they who will become the highest (tamatagge), if they have the zeal to learn."

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Buddhism is Not a Religion

Beliefnet.com (Interdependence Project, 9/16/09)
The Buddha-Dharma -- despite there being religious organizations called "Buddhism" -- is not inherently a religion. It is a technique and way of living that is applicable to anyone, EVEN IF they choose to continue identifying with a religion.

• Buddhism

The Buddhist way of being is one that fos-ters compassion, kind-ness, and cooperation. If a condition of being Buddhist is that you must forsake your religion (Christianity, Islam, Judaism, or otherwise) for something called a "Buddhist religion," the chance of Buddhism spreading wide becomes exponentially slimmer. I would have sorely misunderstood what the Four Noble Truths mean.

• Talking Dharma

Buddhism is a path to liberation from dissatisfaction (dukkha). It does not condone war or killing others on the way to liberation. Buddhists do not defend physical or mental territory with knives, guns, and bombs (or bows and arrows, as pictured here with a "lost tribe" in the Amazon jungle that does not want contact with the modern world). Although religions like Judaism, Christianity, Islam, and others all have beautiful teachings and have been engines of civilization at various points in history, each of them also succumbs to combat when their geography or beliefs are challenged.

There is a whiff of the primitive origins of religion that makes itself known whenever religious organzations (or governments claiming a divine right) kill other people for not believing in the spiritual or physical boundaries that they have drawn.

When I hear of wars being conducted with the blessing of Christ, or a Jewish God, or a Fatwah, or in the name of a Mormon divinity, I cannot help but picture a caveman with a stone in his hand standing outside his rock house bashing in the head of a threatening neighbor going "Me mine, no come here!"

Spiritual teachings that are truly based on compassion and interdependence -- that offer the tools to actually manifest compassion -- do not require guns, knives, and bombs. More>>

Is Buddhism a religion?

ReligiousTolerance.org

"If you live the sacred and despise the ordinary, you are still bobbing in the ocean of delusion" (Lin-Chi).

Is Buddhism a religion?
Whether Buddhism is or is not a religion depends upon how you define "religion."

Government census offices and public opinion pollsters generally recognize Buddhism as a religion. Books that describe the religions of the world generally cover Buddhism along with Christianity, Islam, Hinduism, and so on. Even the Boy Scouts of America -- who expel Atheists, Agnostics, and homosexuals -- accept Buddhists as members.

The Drepung Loseling Institute states:

"Like all major religions, Buddhism contains an explanation of the origin of existence, a morality, and a specific set of rituals and behaviors. ... Buddhism presents a transformational goal, a desire to improve one's situation, and a distinct moral code.

However, some definitions of "religion" require a belief in the existence of one or more deities. That would disqualify most branches of Buddhism from being considered as religious groups.

"The greatest achievement is selflessness.

The greatest worth is self-mastery.

The greatest quality is seeking to serve others.

The greatest precept is continual awareness.

The greatest medicine is the emptiness of everything.

The greatest action is not conforming with the world's ways.

The greatest magic is transmuting the passions.

The greatest generosity is non-attachment.

The greatest goodness is a peaceful mind.

The greatest patience is humility.

The greatest effort is not concerned with results.

The greatest meditation is a mind that lets go.

The greatest wisdom is seeing through appearances" (Atisha).

Overview
With [a grossly underestimated count, which for example excludes Chinese, Indian, and Nepalese populations for political reasons, of] about 365 milliion followers -- or 6% of the world's population -- Buddhism is the fourth largest religion in the world.

It is exceeded in numbers only by Christianity, Islam, and Hinduism. Buddhism was founded in Northern India by Siddhartha Gautama. In the sixth century BCE, he attained enlightenment and assumed the title Buddha ("one who has awakened").

The Buddha was later subsumed into the Hindu pantheon in India. And with him went the separation of Buddhism and Hinduism within its birthplace. But Buddhism's universal message had already become established in Sri Lanka. From there, it expanded across Asia, evolving into two or three main forms:

• Theravada Buddhism (sometimes called Southern Buddhism) "has been the dominant school of Buddhism in most of Southeast Asia since the thirteenth century, with the establishment of the monarchies in Thailand, Burma, Cambodia, and Laos."
• Mahayana Buddhism (sometimes called Northern Buddhism) is largely found in China, Japan, Korea, Tibet, and Mongolia.
• Vajrayāna Buddhism (a.k.a. Tantric Buddhism, Mantrayana, Tantrayana, Esoteric Buddhism, or True Words Sect) is considered a part of Mahayana Buddhism, but others view it as a third form of Buddhism.

To these might be added:

• Tibetan Buddhism, which developed largely in isolation from Theravada and Mahayana because of the remoteness of Tibet.
• Zen Buddhism, which developed out of the Chinese Mahayana school known as Ch'an (which comes from the Sanskrit dhyana, Pali jhana, or "meditation"; Zen is the Japanese pronunciation).
• Western Buddhism, which is forming with an emphasis on meditation and the equality of the sexes. This newest form is both egalitarian and eclectic, a mix of international customs -- particularly Zen (from post-WWII exposure to Japanese culture), Theravadan (due to post-Vietnam War exposure and sudden influx of Westerners in Thailand, Burma, and Sri Lanka attracted by the teachings of Ajahn Chah, Goenka, and Bhikkhu Bodhi, and the ongoing peace efforts of exiled activist-monk Thich Nhat Hanh), and a hodgepodge of Tibetan practices (due to China's invasion of Tibet and the Dalai Lama's subsequent worldwide fame).

Buddhism is becoming increasingly popular in the West in all three forms and even evolving into a characteristically Western tradition due to its early roots and seminal scholarship in England and Germany. Since the late 19th century, modern Buddhism has emerged as a truly international movement.

This started as an attempt to produce a single form of Buddhism (without local accretions and the mixture of indigenous religious traditions) that all Buddhists could embrace.

"Aware of the suffering caused by the destruction of life, I vow to cultivate compassion and learn ways to protect lives of people, animals, plants, and minerals. I am determined not to kill, not to let others kill, and not to condone any killing in the world, in my thinking, and in my way of life" (Thich Nhat Hanh).

• A brief overview of the Buddha's life
• Core Buddhist beliefs
• A summary of Buddhism
• Comparison of Buddhism with Christianity

Buddhist traditions in the East and West

• A brief discussion
• Theravada Buddhism (Southern Buddhism)
• Mahayana tradition (Northern Buddhism)
• Vajrayāna Buddhism (Tantric or Esoteric Buddhism)
• Tantric sex
• Chán and Zen Buddhism
• Buddhism and homosexuality

More: Sources of Buddhist information and materials

Western Buddhist Order

Ashvajit (FWBO)

The Western Buddhist Order -- or Trailokya Bauddha Mahasangha, as it is known in the East -- is an Order (Nikaya) of the worldwide community of Buddhists. It thus belongs to what is reputed to be the fastest growing religion in the West. Buddhism is even fashionable, with the Buddhist film star Richard Gere coming to be almost as well known nowadays as the Dalai Lama.

The question is sometimes asked: Is Buddhism really a religion? Actually, some people prefer not to define Buddhism as a "religion" at all. Others call it a "non-theistic religion" since it does not concern itself primarily with any personal creator God as in theistic religions. To help allay such questions and doubts, it is perhaps best to reflect upon the term by which the teaching of the Buddha is known in the East: the Buddha-Dharma. This term means the truth seen and taught by the Buddha, the awakened or enlightened one.

Buddhism is a spiritual path. It is a teaching and a way of practice. It is able to communicate (to those who are open, willing, and able to test, apply, and ultimately commit themselves to) the essentials of the spiritual experience of the historical Enlightened One, known to history as the Buddha Shakyamuni.

The experience of spiritual enlightenment (as clearly distinct from the 18th century Western "Enlightenment" period of the rationalists and spiritual skeptics) is not something that can be handed to anyone on a plate. Spiritual experience comes through personal effort and perseverance, through purifying one's morality, practicing meditation, developing wisdom. Undertaking all this in the context of spiritual commitment to the ideal exemplified by the Buddha is what is really needed.

The Buddha was the first historical person to discover the evolution of human consciousness -- the Enlightenment Principle, if you will, the principle of the path to higher human development. He communicated the truth, beauty, and peace of that experience to thousands of disciples and followers, men and women, young and old, rich and poor, healthy and disadvantaged. As a result of following the Buddha's Teachings, people became enlightened. And the vibrant testimony of their lives and words reaches down the centuries to influence and inspire us even today.

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"When the mind begins to become still, we then begin to truly see it. When you first try to stabilize and pacify the mind, initially it will become very busy because it’s not accustomed to being still. In fact, it doesn’t even necessarily want to become still, but it is essential to get a hold of the mind to recognize its nature. This practice is extremely important.

"...Eventually you will find yourself in a state where your mind is clear and open all the time. It is just like when the clouds are removed from the sky and the sun can clearly be seen, shining all the time. This is coming close to the state of liberation, liberation from all traces of suffering.

"...The truth of this practice is universal. It isn’t necessary to call it a religion to practice it. Whether one is a Hindu or a Muslim or a Christian or a Buddhist simply doesn’t matter. Anyone can practice this because this is the nature of the mind, the nature of everyone’s mind. If you can get a handle on your mind, and pacify it in this way, you will definitely experience these results, and you will see them in your daily life situation. There is no need to put this into any kind of category, any kind of "ism" (Gyatrul Rinpoche).