The approach of positive response calls for self-transformation through a sustained process of self-admonition and self-correction. Unless one has brought about a measure of transformation in one's conduct and beliefs, attitudes and thinking, it is impossible to respond positively, leading to one's own well-being as well as that of others.
"If by striving and putting forth effort (in the manner mentioned already), one's resentment subsides, well and good. If it does not, one should then consider some of the qualities of the person which express calmness and purity and which inspire confidence when recollected, and after reconsidering in this manner, one should make resentment subside."
[There are five kinds of people one might meet.] 1. Now for someone, bodily conduct is calm, and this calmness can be seen by the way this person performs various duties. But the person's conduct in speech and thought is not calm. Having ignored the latter, only the calm conduct in bodily actions should be considered.
If by an enemy you are pained