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(SoundsTrue) Pema Chödrön talks about suffering, its causes, and one antidote applicable in daily life. There is a simple meditation practice known as tonglen that can serve as medicine for "ordinary people like ourselves." We use life's difficulties as a way to befriend ourselves, accept the past we have rejected, and widen our circle of compassion. From Good Medicine.
Someone criticizes you. They criticize your work or your appearance or your child. At moments like that, what is it you feel? It has a familiar taste in your mouth, it has a familiar smell. Once you begin to notice it, you feel like this experience has been happening forever.
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At the subtlest level, we feel a tightening, a tensing, a sense of closing down. Then we feel a sense of withdrawing, not wanting to be where we are. That's the hooked quality. That tight feeling has the power to hook us into self-denigration, blame, anger, jealousy, and other emotions leading to words/actions that end up poisoning us.
Remember the fairy tale in which toads hop out of the princess's mouth whenever she starts to say mean words? That's how being hooked can feel. Yet we don't stop -- we can't stop -- because we're in the habit of associating whatever we're doing with relief from our own discomfort.
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Shenpa thrives on the underlying insecurity of living in a world that is always changing. We experience this insecurity as a background of slight unease or restlessness. We all want some kind of relief from that unease, so we turn to what we enjoy -- food, alcohol, drugs, sex, work, or shopping.
In moderation what we enjoy might be very delightful. We can appreciate its taste and its presence in our life. But when we empower it with the idea that it will bring us comfort, that it will remove our unease, we get hooked. More
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