Happiness Poison — and the Antidote (video)

Dr. Waldinger, Big Think, March 15, 2024; Amber Larson, Dhr. Seven (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly

Happiness Poison — and the Antidote | Dr. Robert Waldinger

(Big Think) Harvard University has conducted an 85-year-long study on what makes humans happy.

Zen, is it Zen? It's Zen Buddhism, isn't it? - No.

[Was it money, tripping on acid, alcohol, fighting, heroin addiction, lots of sex, smoking weed, drinking lots of water, money, oh I bet it's money, shiploads of money, a job that pays a lot, cars, houses, oh I bet it's lots of real estate, tenants that pay a lot, political office, hot yoga, cold plunges, talk therapy, it's not talk therapy is it, ayahuasca retreats,  getting into the Olympics, Math Olympics, winning chess tournaments, achievements of all kinds, overcoming adversity, martial arts, is it breathing, just being alive, having a disease then not having it, eating vegan, watching videos on YouTube, no TikTok, being addicted to a cellphone, meditating alone in a jungle under a fruit tree until the dawn of wisdom?]

Harvard professor's six-step guide to Zen

Psychiatrist [Zen Master Roshi] Robert Waldinger, MD, explains what Harvard found by asking, ► What is the one thing that, according to science, will make our lives richer and vastly more fulfilling? [Meditation, is it meditation?]

This 85-year continuing longitudinal study from Harvard says the answer is relationships. Dr. Waldinger is the current director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, the longest-running research on adult life.

Tracking over 2,000 lives since 1938, Waldinger and his team have dissected the fabric of well-being, finding that wealth and achievements fall short compared to the power of our connections with other people.

Over the eight decades since the study began, scientists have determined that loneliness and isolation can have negative effects on our mental, emotional, and even physical well-being.

Key findings of this study suggest that nurturing relationships may serve as our best source of fulfillment, emphasizing the need for "social fitness" alongside mental and physical health.

According to Doc Waldinger, it’s time to invest in the bonds that matter which, ultimately, is an investment in ourselves.

ABOUT: Dr. Robert Waldinger, MD, is a clinical professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, a practicing psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, and a Zen Buddhist teacher and practitioner. For the last two decades, Waldinger has been the director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development. This study, conducted over more than 85 years, has analyzed the entire lives of 724 families to determine the activities, behaviors, and dynamics that enhance a person’s life-long well-being. Dr. Waldinger has dedicated his career to examining these elements and discovering what brings true fulfillment to human existence. He is the author of several books, including his most recent, The Good Life: Lessons from the World’s Longest Scientific Study of Happiness.

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