What is "Nonviolent Communication"? (video)

Marshall Rosenberg (CNVC.org); Seth Auberon, CC Liu, Wisdom Quarterly

Annual Peace Bell Ceremony, United Nations International Day of Peace (UN)

Nonviolent Communication Training Course with Marshall Rosenberg (CNVC.org)

Peace (Kineticfoto)

The Buddha praised peace, tranquility, and serenity, seeing them as vital steps in the realization of enlightenment and final peace or nirvana, "the end of all suffering."

But how is it achieved in our daily lives as we talk to ourselves and begin to form an intention (cetana) to communicate with others? Speech is one of three main types of karma (action), along with mental and physical activity.

 

Let's become aware of how our language was built to use punishment and reward, which are tools to dominate the public, then let's learn how to change ourselves for the better and help others evolve as well so that all needs are met and happiness is gained here and now.

Remember, according to an ancient insight, "There is no way to happiness; happiness is the way!" Along the road we find quiet reflection, peace, wisdom, compassion, and a realization that things that upset us were never even what they seemed. There is so much we are missing when we are benighted by the three poisons of greed, anger/fear, and delusion.

What is NVC?

Peace on Earth begins/ends with peace in the heart (Ka)

Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is based on the principles of nonviolence (Sanskrit, ahimsa) -- the natural state of compassion when no violence (violent or harmful intention) is present in the heart.

 

NVC begins by assuming that we are all compassionate by nature and that violent strategies -- whether verbal or physical -- are learned behaviors taught and supported by the prevailing culture.

NVC also assumes that we all share the same basic human needs and that each action is a strategy to try to meet one or more of these needs.

 

People who practice NVC find greater authenticity in their communication, increased understanding, deepened connection, and joyful conflict resolution.

 

The NVC community is active in over 65 countries around the globe. Find out more about how NVC is changing the world and how you can get involved.

Occupy: How to beat Police (video)

Lyssa Clayton, Eva Schonveld (Giraffe Talk); M.B. Rosenberg; Wisdom Quarterly

SYSTEM OF A DOWN shows the problem. Occupy Wall Street is the backdrop. Police State resistance is what we want to overcome. NVC is how.

How to be heard in the peaceful Occupy Movement
How can I communicate with [brutal police and occupiers who act like violent] children?

One of the biggest issues for me is how I communicate or fail to communicate.

With the best of intentions I have found myself saying things in ways which make things worse.

I sometimes find it nearly impossible not to slip down the slope of judging, blaming, criticizing [and subduing them with batons, mace, projectiles weapons, flash grenades, and automatic gunfire].

(JFBerkeley) Animated introduction to meeting everyone's need

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How many of us end up saying things in a tone that has unpleasant "you’re bad" connotations?

• “You always ____”
  
• “Why can’t you just do/not do x, y, z?”

How many of us find we have forced [others] to do something we wanted but felt very unhappy about how we achieved it?

For many of us, much of how we relate to our children [and others] is [how we were related to as children and by others]. At its root it is based on coercion: the “you will get/not get something if you don’t cooperate.”

The sub-text in a lot of our everyday wrangles with [others] is, “I’m bigger and stronger than you, so you are going to have to do what I say” (because "might makes right").

[This is exactly what police and the Police State behind them believe! There is an easier way to win, just as martial arts are not based on strength and force but rather receiving, redirecting, and flowing.]

We teach our children [and police] values more deeply through how we interact with them than what we preach at them.

[Hey, fat f@#%n p!gs, F### Y*U, f@$ci$t$!!!]

Communicating like protesters instead of police
Rosenberg explains Nonviolent Communication.

So are there ways to change how we communicate at a deep level [to make it effective in actually getting what we want rather than provoking a negative reaction]?

Is there a tool, a technique? Is there help, support, a way to begin?

Faced daily with feelings of exasperation and powerlessness in my [tent], I was intrigued and excited to hear about the idea of Nonviolent or Compassionate Communication.

The word "violent" in this context refers to the way we can hurt or damage people through the use of words which do not respect another as worthy of our compassion and understanding, rather than necessarily [physically harming them].

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)
The process of NVC was developed by Dr. Rosenberg in response to growing up in Detroit in a culture colored with violence and riots. He found himself exploring two major questions.

1. What happens to disconnect us from our compassionate nature, leading us to behave in a violent and exploitative way?
2. What allows some people to remain connected to their compassionate nature under even the most trying circumstances?

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Nonviolent Communication

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What is Nonviolent Communication?

• Imagine connecting with the human spirit with anyone anywhere.
• Imagine actually allowing everyone’s needs to be equally valued.
• Imagine creating organizations good for people and the environment.

Nonviolent Communication (NVC) helps connect us with what is alive in ourselves and in others moment-to-moment, with what we or others could do to make life more wonderful, and with an awareness of what gets in the way of natural giving and receiving.

Nonviolent Communication language strengthens our ability to inspire compassion from others and respond compassionately to others and ourselves. NVC guides us to reframe how we express ourselves, how we hear others, and how to resolve conflicts by focusing our consciousness on what we are observing, feeling, needing, and requesting.

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NVC "the language of the heart" awakens empathy and honesty.

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