Showing posts with label advice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label advice. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 12, 2026

Ram's advice to quiet the Monkey Mind


The Great Seer's gained samadhi
(One Timeless WitnessRamana Maharshi ("Great Seer" Ramana) was asked a question by a spiritual seeker trying to "meditate" (reach samadhi, stillness, unification of mind, coherence). Ramana answered him.

The mind may never stop thinking [except deep in the eight Buddhist meditative absorptions, in samadhi], but if we turn our attention to what or who [the Witness, the Watcher] is listening, suddenly the inner voice may pause or stop.

The method to follow, the practice

The voice doesn't bother me. I need stimulation!
"Bhagavan," he asked, "how do I remain as this Witness? The voice remains the moment I stop trying." The seeker expected a method, something to follow, something to practice.

Ramana's voice was gentle but firm, "You cannot remain as the Witness. You are already the Witness. The question itself comes from the mind. The seeker's face tightened, "I do not understand."

Overthinking: Why am I even alive?

More stimulation, more stimulation, more!!!
"The mind wants a method, it wants a practice, it wants a way to achieve 'witnessing.' This is the trap. The mind cannot witness itself into existence. I can only dissolve.

"The practice is simply to notice. When the voice speaks, what hears it? Do not fight the voice. This creates more noise: 'I should not be thinking this, I am failing at meditation, I must try harder!' More voices, more struggle."

A thought arose in the seeker right then, "This is too difficult." Instead of believing it or fighting it, he asked, 'What is aware of this thought?" The question itself dissolved the thought. For a moment, there was only silence, only presence.

So the method is not a method, not a practice?
"Do not try to become the witness," Ramana continued. "This creates a false 'doer.' 'I am witnessing now, I am doing it correctly, I am making progress.' This is still the mind wearing a spiritual mask. Simply rest in the question, 'Who is aware of this thought?'...

"In your relationships," Ramana said, "the voice says, 'They do not love you anymore.' Ask, 'Who is unloved?' The answer? 'I am.' Then ask, 'Who is this "I" that can be loved or unloved?' The story collapses."

He paused. "And [of] that shame, the sense that you have not progressed, that others have arrived somewhere you cannot reach, ask, 'Who is the one who has failed?' The answer? 'I am.'

"Then ask, 'Who is this "I" that can succeed or fail at [meditation] practice?' Its owner cannot be found. The shame does not to be argued away; it simply has no ground to stand on.

But "I am that I am," right?

Don't Feed the Monkey Mind
"The witness is not cultivated," Ramana said, "it is uncovered. Every time you [mindfully] notice the voice, you are already the witness. You just have not recognized it yet."


The seeker sat with this. It was so SIMPLE, it felt impossible. He had spent years trying to improve his mind, control his thoughts, become a better meditator.

And now Ramana was saying, "Just notice what is already aware [mindful]. Every example leads to the same place. The voice has an owner that cannot be found. And what remains when the owner [ego, atta, atman] disappears, that is what you are."

"Bhavagan," he said quietly, "what is the purpose of the question, 'Who am I?' if it cannot be answered?"


Ramana smiled. "The question, 'Who am I?' is not meant to be answered by the mind. It is meant to DISSOLVE the mind.

The seeker closed his eyes. The voice had nothing left to say.... He no longer needed the voice to stop.

Thursday, July 2, 2026

Wise sayings for better living: Simple Life


The Art of Not Forcing
Wisdom Quarterly
Why even carry a sword? The art of kyudo
What is wu wei? It is the art of not forcing things, non-interference, effortless action, non-doing, non-resistance, the path of least resistance, going with the flow, the way of water, acting in harmony with the way life actually moves.

Once upon a time two great martial arts masters traveled the land, unbeaten, taking on all challengers and triumphing in each case. Then one day, by chance, they met at the creek. And one said to the other, "So we finally meet? Today shall be the day we see who the greater sage is, the warrior to vanquish all warriors, the Undefeated."

"Indeed, just as you say."

Then the first drew his sword with a resonant schwing and stabbed it into the water. It stood glimmering. Then he took out a piece of paper and placed it onto the water above the sword. The water carried the paper down, and his sharp sword sliced it in half down the middle just as it flowed by. At this, the first warrior shouted: "Behold!"

The second warrior drew his sword and stabbed the creek with his longer, stronger sword, shimmering more brightly on the surface of the water.

The first warrior trembled in anticipation, his confidence beginning to slip.

The Art of War

The second warrior took out a piece of paper, placed it above the sword on the surface of the water. And the current carried it down to the blade, going around the sword just as it passed.

The first fell to his knees, defeated, understanding too late, of course, that it is always wiser to avoid conflict and not fight. He cried out, "Indeed, master, we have settled it. And let it be known from this day forward, I am the inferior."

The other gently smiled and turned away.

Did it happen? Who knows. Could it have happened? Indeed! The Tao flows, wu wei, unobtrusive, doing nothing but leaving nothing undone. Forcing nothing but accomplishing everything. Behold, what we call Mother Nature!


Western Way: struggle, fight, push, lose
 
(Evan Bnormal) A monk of 28 years reveals why he abandoned society... [then gave up and left, to again live in the world, praying and meditating, but now being able to "pop out for a pint," as he explains]

Friday, June 6, 2025

Dalai Lama on his next reincarnation

Drop delusion of self to help everyone. - Psychology highly developed in India: Abhidhamma
Dalai Lama on rebirth and his planned reincarnation: Death isn't end of everything; samsara goes on

(Dechen wangdi 🇨🇦) June 3, 2025: "H.H. the 14th Dalai Lama on his Reincarnation" [Is the 14th Dalai Lama, the former pope-king of a school of Tibetan Vajrayana Buddhism and a world renown personality, a Buddhist celebrity, planning a trip to Shangri-La or Shambhala, and is this way of hinting he's going? The world will have to wait and see. For many, a better question than his future tulku status might be, "Who is the Dalai Lama?" We all think we know him, or know about him, but as John Oliver showed, few know anything once they are actually asked. Last Week Tonight sought to remedy that with a few good laughs:]


Getting to know the Dalai Lama

  • The Dalai Lama (dalailama.com), June 2025; John Oliver, Last Week Tonight, 2017; CC Liu, Crystal Q., Seth Auberon (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly

Sunday, February 23, 2025

Dear Abby, my dumb son's a 'Peter Pan'

I don't give a gosh darn whom you date or marry, but get a job to pay for it. Work, Son, commit.
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I'll marry your son IF you buy us a house, Mom.
DEAR ABBY: I am blessed with two sons who live with me. They are in their mid-20s.

The younger one is an amazing young man. He’s strong, confident but not cocky, and happy. He’s in college, works part-time, and plays in a band, among other things. 

My older son is the opposite. Since he was 16, he’s had countless jobs and is (again) currently unemployed. He has been fired from every single job except one.
Dr. Jordan Peterson: The Peter Pan Syndrome* - Pan prefers kinky Tinkerbell to normal Wendy
    You, listen to your Momma, Boy! - *Laughter*
    He always has some excuse to blame others for his failings. He thinks he’s smarter than the rest of us, thinks he knows better, etc.

    I’ve tried to tell and show him the issue is with HIM, not his previous employers. He refuses to accept responsibility for anything wrong in his life.


    I love him, but he is driving me crazy. I want to help him but, honestly, I’m over it. I’ve reached the point where it’s difficult to be civil to him.

    The last time he was out of work lasted three months. When I gave him a “drop dead” date to find a job or I was kicking him out of the house, miraculously, he found one in the nick of time.

    But won't marriage solve all our problems, Kramer? - Seinfeld and Kramer grow old alone
    I'm a Buddist, MOM! - I wish! You're full of it - If you don't get off my back, I'm gonna base jump

    We are back at that point again. I hate to do it, but I need him to either straighten up or get out.

    No matter what I do, I’m the bad guy — for enabling him or for forcing him out. I would love some advice.

    FED-UP MOM IN FLORIDA
    • DEAR THE BOTH OF YA: C'mon, Mom, I have lots on my plate! Pot, porn, pervy dating adventures, my cellphone, chasing chicks, gambling and boozing with my buddies, craft beer sampling, hanging out, smoking the herbage, my retainers, school, um, lots of stuff. And shut the front door, Abby! Who's even writing your column for you?! Get off my back.

    You're a lazy bum, dumb!
    DEAR MOM: Your son is no longer a child. He needs to learn to stand on his own two feet. Give him another deadline to find a job or be out from under your roof.

    While he is employed, tell him you expect him to save enough money for a security deposit on a place to live.

    Do not expect him to like it or be grateful to you for having subsidized him as long as you have. The biggest favor you can give him now is a chance to grow up....
    Mom, I have Peter Pan Syndrome. Sorry


    • Seinfeld; Dear Abby via New York Post, Feb. 23, 2025; Jack Black, "Jeepers Creepers," "Slackers," "Gay Son/Grass Valley Greg," Mr. Show with Bob and David (HBO); Psychologist Dr. Jordan Peterson (analysis); Ashley Wells, Dhr. Seven, Shauna Schwartz, CC Liu (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly

    Monday, October 7, 2024

    Sex Advice w/ Doc Haley: Hawk Tuah Girl

    WARNING: Graphic discussion of sex with casual discussion of the male member and American life!
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    Haliey Welch talks HAWK TUAH, her upcoming sex advice show on the Bill Maher Network, overnight fame, and Matt Rife shows up
    (Whitney Cummings) July 26, 2024: Good For You | EP #249. Haliey Welch is the girl behind the insanely viral “Hawk Tuah” meme seen the world over on every social media platform. Just call me Haley. She joins Whitney to talk about her sudden rise to fame, her dealbreakers for men, and even gets to meet her celeb crush comedian Matt Rife via Facetime!

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    Pervy Bill Maher tries to adopt Hawk Tuah Girl Haliey to become her mentor, agent, producer, boss, and advisor so she can have her own sex advice show on his podcast network audiovisual empire. Hawky can be the next "Dr. Ruth" if she takes Maher's advice. He knows how to work Hollywood and advance a career in show biz, if only she'll listen to Professor Creepydrawers. Looks like she would rather take advice from female success story Whitey Cumming or the first gal. Have her 15 minutes run out? We're still interested in what she's up to. And Dr. Ruth Westheimer was a really American phenom.

    Wednesday, September 18, 2024

    1st Concubine Laura Loomer, Trump's g/f

    What can she do for you that I can't, Don?! - Yeah, Mr. Trump, take Boebert over that Bimbo!

    They let you grab'em by the P, Bill. - That's my p.
    (CIA CNN) Meet the new Jewish Monica Lewinsky, here to take down another resident of the White House. Earth men are easy, even easier than the girls. Trump can be duped on long flights without Melania, who is at home doting on her precious Billionaire Boys Club son Barron. Laura Loomer gets off his plane, as seen here, and gets him off on his plane, not shown here.

    Could she have more of an influence on DJ than absent Ivanka and missing Jared? Jealous sycophants like MTG notice and can't believe everyone else doesn't. Does Rep. Greene understand what Loomer is giving the Don? Apparently not. If she did, she'd send in Boeber to seduce the Orange One or at least take him to a play and make sure he stays at attention as has a good time. #CNN #CIA #OperationMockingbird #news

    Who is Laura Loomer, the right-wing activist in Trump's inner circle?

    (CNN) Sept. 12, 2024: As Jewish right-wing activist Laura Loomer has emerged as a member of former Pres. Trump's inner circle, CNN's Elle Reeve looks back on Loomer's history of controversy. CNN's Manu Raju breaks down the reaction on Capitol Hill, and CNN's Boris Sanchez and Brianna Keilar discuss with author Jesselyn Cook.


    I'm finally in love. I hope Barron understands.
    (News Reporter) Jon Stewart (The Daily Show) condemns cheating, lying, philandering Don the John Trump for having sex with and possibly falling in love with close traveling companion, extreme Republican, personal campaign advisor Laura Loomer yet hating Taylor "Nazi Barbie" Swift. In a shocking parallel of the fruit doesn't fall far from the tree, eldest son Don Jr. is cheating on his fiancée psycho-loudmouth and aggrieved plastic surgery disaster Kimberly Guilfoyle, for partner of California Gov. Gavin Newsom. It sounds very Christian, with a rich alpha male being entitled to cheat on his wife or fiancée as part of the patriarchy they deny exists in the modern U.S. 💞💖💝💘😻❣️🥰😍

    Sept. 16, 2024

    Monday, April 15, 2024

    Lincoln Project humiliates Trump w/ new ads


    Lincoln Project humiliates Trump with twо hilarious ads (reaction video)
    Why does the USA love rich narcissists?
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    Saturday, March 16, 2024

    RICH: Celebrities who are rich and unhappy


    Hey, Margot, I'm married to a Latina, Barbie.
    I can't wait to be rich and famous. It will solve all of my problems because I'll have money to burn, be loved by everybody, get the best out of life, have power and influence, be able to give and donate to my favorite causes.

    It's going to be great and then I won't have low self-esteem or care what anyone thinks about me, what they say about me, what they write about me, the rumors they, oh cr*p, why don't they just shut up? You don't know me! You just know my persona, not the real person.

    Well, at I'll have the money and more of it coming...as long as stay relevant and keep the projects and offers coming. Oh goodness, how am I going to do that? There will always be a younger better more beautiful competitor nipping at my heels. That's it! I'll nip and tuck, and no one will ever know it. I'll stay young looking forever.

    Oh my gosh, what if the makeup can no longer cover my cracks and wrinkles? Man, I was so much better off being anonymous, able to go anywhere without being hounded or bothered.

    And all these taxes and leeches trying to take away my stacks of cash with their appeals and hair brain ideas for me to invest in. Sometimes I think I would have been better off without this burden. Wait! What am I saying?

    The Law of Attraction rules say I have to always be in alignment, believe in myself, give gratitude as I already have what I want... Just listen to these winners whine and complain about how hard it is to be rich. Try being poor! It's going to be great when I get there.

    Celebrities on being rich but not happy and giving advice

    (Marco Sander) Celebrities open up about their depression and anxiety, stress and sadness despite of being rich and famous. Celebrities such as Margot Robbie, Cardi B, Billie Eilish, Dwayne the Rock Johnson, Cara Delevingne, Harry Styles, Charli D´amelio, Ed Sheeran, and Brad Pitt open up about not being happy, secure, or at peace. #celebrities #fame #rich #unhappy

    Celebrities
    0:00 Cardi B 0:06 Dwayne Johnson 0:18 Cara Delevingne 0:32 Machine Gun Kelly 0:45 Harry Styles 0:55 Josh Radnor 1:09 Charli D´amelio 1:23 Demi Lovato 1:33 Justin Bieber 1:45 Billie Eilish

    1:59 Elizabeth Olsen 2:10 Felicity Feline 2:24 Katy Perry 2:38 Ed Sheeran 2:51 Zendaya 3:03 Brad Pitt 3:16 Keanu Reeves 3:26 Sam Smith 3:40 Michael Phelps 3:53 Nicki Minaj 4:02 Kristen Bell 4:13 Dua Lipa 4:26 Pink

    4:40 T-Pain 4:51 Jake Paul 5:05 Doja Cat 5:19 Kendall Jenner 5:30 Essena O´Neill 5:40 Iggy Azalea 5:51 Jesse Eisenberg 5:59 Kim Kardashian 6:11 Machine Gun Kelly 6:24 Justin Bieber 6:37 Addison Rae 6:51 Kristen Bell

    7:02 Khalid 7:11 Mac Miller 7:24 Alexi Panos 7:38 Grant Cardone 7:50 John Cena 8:04 Gary Vaynerchuk 8:14 Eric Clapton 8:29 Robin Williams 8:40 J. Cole 8:50 Jesy Nelson 9:03 Drake 9:17 Madison Beer 9:30 Dave Chappelle 9:44 Russell Brand

    9:58 Billie Eilish 10:11 Tom Shadyac 10:24 Kendall Jenner 10:30 Chris Rock 10:43 Beyonce 10:57 Logic 11:10 Colin Farrell 11:19 Dawn Richard 11:29 Dan Bilzerian 11:42 Andy Rooney 11:56 Steve Harvey 12:06 Sophie Turner 12:16 Gwyneth Paltrow

    12:28 Margot Robbie 12:41 Kristen Stewart 12:47 Scarlett Johansson 12:58 PewDiePie 13:07 James Arthur 13:21 Elizabeth Olsen 13:35 Jay-Z 13:45 Jennifer Garner 13:59 Adam Sandler 14:12 Kyle Kingsbury 14:22 The Beatles 14:32 Kristen Bell

    14:42 Kendrick Lamar 14:53 Madison Beer 15:02 Madonna 15:12 Selena Gomez 15:19 Steve Harvey 15:31 Tony Robbins 15:43 Tupac Shakur 15:54 Tyson Fury 16:05 Ethan Hawke 16:16 Whitney Houston 16:29 Lottery Winner 16:41 Taylor Swift 16:49 Alanis Morissette

    16:58 Angelina Jolie 17:09 Anne Hathaway 17:19 Emma Stone 17:34 Kristen Bell 17:47 Ariana Grande 18:01 Tony Hale 18:11 ? 18:23 Ben Affleck 18:34 Bo Burnham

    18:48 Brooke Shields 18:57 Prince Harry 19:08 Shane Dawson 19:20 ? 19:33 ? 19:47 Halsey 20:00 Chris Evans 20:22 Colin Farrell

    20:32 Dalai Lama 20:45 Dax Shepard 20:58 Barack Obama 21:06 ? 21:20 JK Rowling 21:33 Mike Tyson 21:45 Reese Witherspoon 21:55 Lady Gaga 22:09 Jennifer Lawrence 22:20 John Mulaney

    22:29 Lady Gaga 22:39 Jon Hamm 22:52 Justin Bieber 23:05 Kanye West 23:18 Keke Palmer 23:31 Kendall Jenner 24:45 Pete Davidson 23:59 Leonardo Di Caprio 24:13 Louis CK 24:25 Maria Sharapova

    24:38 Michael Jackson 24:50 Daniel Craig 25:02 Stranger 25:15 Robbie Williams 25:22 Sarah Silverman 25:38 Shawn Mendes 25:45 ? 25:59 Steven Rogers 26:10 Taraji P. Henson 26:23 Brad Pitt 26:33 Katharine Brooks 26:41 William Shatner 26:53 XXXTENTACTION 27:06 Advice

    Friday, March 15, 2024

    Subtle Art of Not Giving a F: 40 truths (video)

    Mark Manson, March 9, 2024; Pat Macpherson, Dhr. Seven (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly
    WARNING: Use of harsh and gratuitous language in doling out harsh truths, graphic, sexual, vulgar!

    40 harsh truths I know at 40 but wish I knew at 20
    The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
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    First, who is Mark Manson? He is the author of the very popular, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.

    Today is my 40th birthday. Here are all the things that I know at 40 that I wish I knew at 20.

    ABOUT
    : I am Mark Manson, three-time Number 1 New York Times bestselling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. Everything Is F*cked: A Book About Hope. I share other types of content to make you a less awful human in these places: markmanson.net / markmanson / iammarkmanson / markmansonnet / markmanson / iammarkmanson. Thanks for watching. Now go not give a F.

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