Two years ago, I was congratulating a young Muslimah [female Muslim] on her engagement.
She was thrilled about starting married life and you could see the
happiness emanating from her as everyone gave her their best wishes.
A
few months later, I could tell something was wrong. After some
cajoling, she shyly admitted the truth: Her sex life was horrible. In
fact, it was fast becoming non-existent. She had been a model Muslimah
her entire life.
Before marriage, she had never so much as held a
non-mahram’s hand, let alone become physically intimate with one. She
had eagerly looked forward to marriage as a chance to finally indulge in all the physical intimacy she had postponed for the sake of Allah.
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But it wasn’t working. Coming from the medical field, she knew all
the relevant biology. She could draw and label all the parts of male and
female anatomy. She had taken fiqh [rules training about what's halal, the catechism] classes and knew the legal rulings
of menstruation and intercourse. But she didn’t know sex.
Oh, she
knew the mechanics. Insert penis into vagina. Climax. Withdraw. But she
didn’t know how to make her husband yearn for her in bed. She didn’t
know what he liked. She didn’t even know what she herself liked!
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They had begun
eagerly, but after a few weeks realized that neither of them was truly
enjoying having sex with the other. And so began my impromptu sex
skills workshop.
I threw at her all the information I’d gathered over
years of marriage, things I’d learned from experience, tidbits I’d
gleaned from friends, tips I’d picked up from magazine articles, one
thing here, two things there. All those bits had accumulated into a very
healthy and robust sex life between me and my husband.
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I gave her
everything, fervently hoping that it would help her in her marital life.
A month later, I saw her again. This time she had a gigantic smile
on her face:
“Please, write this down and share it with other Muslim
girls. No one teaches this. We’re thrown into marriage and only know the
fiqh [technical rules interpreting sharia] and the biology.”
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I wrote down everything I told her on a Word
document and emailed it to her. She shared it with her friends who were
newly married. They shared it with their friends. Before long, word
trickled back to me that people were asking me to write a book on the
subject. So here it is. The Muslimah Sex Manual: A Halal Guide to Mind Blowing Sex
- What Muslim women want in the bedroom - and why a halal sex... (telegraph.co.uk) The book's author, who writes under the pen name Umm Muladhat but has chosen to remain anonymous, has been credited with writing the...
- Writer hailed the Muslim Belle De Jour after publishing halal guide...(thesun.co.uk) Umm Muladhat, a pseudonym, wrote it.
- Muslim woman writes Halal guide to "mind-blowing" sex (timesofisrael.com) Umm Muladhat, an alias, says her taboo-busting book's message is for women to enjoy and initiate physical contact.
- Anonymous Muslim author reports praise for her guide on how to... (independent.co.uk) The author, who uses the alias of Umm Muladhat, has been branded as the Muslim...
- Sex Manual for Muslims: Birth Control, Sexting, BDSM and More... (newsweek.com) Released last week, the book—whose author uses the pen name Umm Muladhat so as to remain anonymous—offers a wide array of advice on...
- Umm Muladhat publishes first sex guide for Muslim women
- Umm Muladhat - Goodreads
