There's a thriving landscape of social media content, online forums, and entrepreneurs dedicated to helping men settle and sublimate the urge to masturbate to online porn (Joe Gough/NPR). |
Masturbation abstinence is popular online. Doctors and therapists are worried
(Lisa Hagen/NPR) "Nothing scares me. Nothing hurts me anymore," a young YouTuber (shown below) tells the camera as snowflakes cut across the frame. He is shirtless in a Michigan January, he tells viewers, to make a point about embracing discomfort in order to become a great, powerful man.
The YouTuber, who goes by the handle iamLucid, tells the camera he can stand the below-freezing temperature because he has been taking cold showers every day and, crucially, hasn't masturbated to pornography in a year.
"That's the most beta thing you can do. That's the weakest thing any man can do," he says.
The video is part of a thriving online landscape dedicated to helping men settle and sublimate the urge to masturbate.
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There are many variations on how and why members of these communities choose to abstain from masturbation. One of the central concepts in these communities is known as "nofap," a play on an onomatopoeic word for masturbation popularized on the notorious 4chan message boards.
The term "nofap" has come to encompass a set of unproven claims that not masturbating confers social and health benefits.
- Masturbation abstinence communities emerged alongside the "manosphere," a collection of online spaces dedicated to the idea that males and masculinity are under threat from some forms of feminism.
Masturbation out of the manosphere (Joe Gough) |
Others, including self-styled coaches, also use the term. They offer advice, services, and sometimes treatment programs to those struggling to reach their goal of not masturbating.
While some figures in this space are religious, most frame their advice as science-based forms of self-improvement or as a cure for pornography addiction, a popular concept that's disputed by scientists and researchers who study sexuality.
- [Anyone who thinks "sex addiction" is make believe, go to a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting and hear the depravity, compulsion, and inability to resist having sex in spite of major negative life consequences like prosecution, prison sentences, diseases (STIs, STDs, VDs), loss of family, relationships, self-control... This is much deeper than horniness or hormones. One sets off down a course having no idea about the pitfalls and traps. Drugs (and other dopamine hits) are almost sure to become part of the web that traps one.]
Measuring the online and offline influence of nofap content is difficult. A 2022 study in the International Journal of Impotence Research by a group of urologists who studied social media content found "semen retention" and its related hashtags to be the most popular men's health topic on TikTok and Instagram.
Unlike every other men's health topic they studied, none of the semen retention posts were coming from doctors.
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Other claimed benefits of avoiding masturbation may include "superpowers," like more confidence and more romantic interest from women.
NoFap LLC says it is not anti-masturbation and it's not anti-porn, and today its creator says it is a peer-support group for people with problematic pornography use.
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"I have seen claims on social media saying that semen retention can boost your testosterone levels, cure erectile dysfunction, make you more manly, make you stronger, cure depression, make you more successful, clear your skin," says Ashley Winter, a urologist who has been publicly critical of nofap ideas. More
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Masturbation is bad karma?
WISDOM QUARTERLY
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- How do we know it's unskillful, unwholesome. "bad" karma? We know because of the definition of unskillful karma: deeds (actions of the body, speech, or mind) that are rooted in the three unwholesome roots: desire (greed, craving, lust), aversion (hate, disliking, fear), and delusion (wrong view, confusion, ignorance). We also know by the results -- suffering, disappointment, pain, not getting what one wants, getting what one does not want, lack of ever being fulfilled.
The symptoms may be mild -- resentment, anger, jealousy, envy, judgments against females -- or graduate to objectification, aggression, insensitivity, cruelty, treating people as less than human. It's a slippery slope. Who can think it's innocent? One may not realize how harmful it is or how deeply it wounds the psyche, but manipulation by the sex industry and sex traffickers is all part of it. Welcome to the world of Epstein, Hollywood, Diddy, porn stars, rap stars, high finance, political corruption, shame, humiliation, and the court system. And all for what? A bone with little blood smeared on it, remnants of flesh, and marrow gnawed on as if it could ever satisfy the hunger and thirst (lust and craving) it engenders. It's a trap. And perhaps only those who fall in ever realize it.
- Lisa Hagen, Consider This, NPR, 2/3/24/ CC Liu, Seth Auberon (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly