Showing posts with label satisfaction. Show all posts
Showing posts with label satisfaction. Show all posts

Saturday, September 10, 2022

Why in the heck would I let go?! (video)

Fearless Soul (YouTube, Aug. 28, 2018); Seth Auberon, Ashley Wells (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly

How to move on, let go, and leave the past in the past (powerful speech)
(Fearless Soul) If I want to let go and know that it's good to let go, but I can't let go, what can I do? One thing is to listen to or read this: TRANSCRIPT.

It's a monkeypot trap! Let go ASAP! Now!!!
"Let it go. The things that have happened in the past... the things that aren’t happening right now... Let it go. If you want to be free, stop locking yourself into the prison of your past. If you want to see the light... Stop holding yourself in the darkness of your past."

Speakers: VIDEO ONE: Tyrone Stokes. VIDEO TWO: Oprah Winfrey, Eckhart Tolle, William Hollis CREDITS: Video ONE: Filming by: Adele Brodskaja. Cast: Jonathan Salem. Achraff E. Lucy Wrede, Catalina Nunez. Assistance: Thomas & Zoe d’Aboy. VIDEO TWO: Footage from StokHub Speech is "BEST REVENGE."

Download or stream speeches by Fearless Soul now on iTunes, Spotify, GooglePlay, AmazonMP3, Apple Music, Worldwide MP3 Download. 

Official website: iamfearlesssoul.com, facebook.com/iamfearlesss..., twitter.com/911well, twitter.com/iamfearlesssoul, instagram.com/iamfearless.... Listen to Fearless Soul every day by phone: iTunes, Spotify,  GooglePlay, AmazonMP3, Apple Music, Worldwide MP3 Download. Loved this? Please share it and spread the message on social media. #LetGo #MoveOn #OprahWinfrey

Tuesday, August 30, 2022

What if I could learn to dance? (video)



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If System of a Down (SOAD) were from India

WISDOM QUARTERLY: If we're dancing, we're already likely not meditating, so we might as well start singing, too. Meditation, while not limited to sitting, is about touching stillness (samadhi) and nobly silent. This is absorption (jhana, zen, dhyana). Then this purified mind can take up insight-practices (vipassana) for liberation of mind.

(Andre Antunes) What if System of a Down were from India? August 10, 2022. The Nooran Sisters plus SOAD and the Patakha Guddi remix is based on these SOAD songs: "I-E-A-I-A-I-O," "Revenga," "Chop Suey," and "B.Y.O.B."  Like it? Maybe buy me a coffee: buymeacoff.ee/andreantunes.

Thursday, October 6, 2016

Depression leads to HEDONISM (Kid Cudi)

Amber Larson, Ashley Wells, Dhr. Seven, CC Liu (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly; Complex News

(KidCudiVEVO) Depressed Kid Cudi sings the hit "Pursuit Of Happiness" featuring MGMT
What does "hedonism" mean? - It means escapist indulgence in sensuality with clinging.
(Complex News) On Tuesday night, Kid Cudi posted on Facebook that he has checked himself into "rehab for depression and suicidal urges." He told fans that "anxiety and depression have ruled my life for as long as I can remember and I never leave the house because of it...I don't trust anyone because of it and I'm tired of being held back in my life. I deserve to have peace. I deserve to be happy and smiling." (See crisistextline.org).

F#@king sh*t, life sucks! I'm miserable!
What is depression? It is an ongoing sadness/low out of proportion with external circumstances, sometimes accompanied by anxiety, sometimes with listlessness. What is hedonism? It is holding PLEASURE as the highest good, the goal of life, the best way to spend our energy.

There is path and not-path to freedom-and-happiness.
The Buddha explained that most humans (and devas/"angels") know nothing better, higher, more gratifying than the gratification of the senses. Knowing no better gratification, the goal becomes more and more pleasure -- clinging.

The inevitable and inescapable result? Apart from the short lived good times, disappointment (dukkha).

So on account of dukkha, things being disappointing, we seek something sure to disappoint. An illustration is given of a man with a terrible itch, a kind of psoriasis with open, oozing sores who will -- on account of that unbearable suffering -- stick his arm into the flames and called the cauterization "relief."

One pain displaces the other or puts it into false-perspective, maybe the way cutting (self-mutilation) does.

(Steve Aoki) Hedonism? "Pursuit of Happiness" (Project X version)

Kid Cudi is suffering from major depression and has been for years. But Kid Cudi wrote and performed one of greatest odes to hedonism ever, the lynch pin of the sexy teen movie "Project X."

(Complex News) Kanye West replies to Kid Cudi

Alone even in a crowd of "friends" (Ziggy)
How would a depressed person write a song titled "Pursuit of Happiness"? Who else would? It is on account of our psychological and physical pain that we seek ESCAPE.

But escape is not to be found through the sense pleasure. That is a mouse trap that leads back here, a kind of prison exit that actually leads to a worse part of the prison.

Pleasure is good, pleasure is great. Get pleasure. But escapism -- using pleasure in an attempt to ease the pain -- is SURE to be disappointing. It can't be otherwise.

What did the Buddha say? The universal characteristics of existence, here as in countless other worlds living beings are reborn in on account of "the continued wandering on" that is samsara are:
  1. impermanence (instability, things hurtling toward destruction)
  2. disappointment (unsatisfactoriness, lack of fulfillment)
  3. impersonality (not self, emptiness).
Help! I don't see any way out but death.
What, then, is the solution? The Buddha showed the way to the END OF ALL SUFFERING, release, freedom, deliverance, emancipation, real escape. That is nirvana. What is the way, the path-of-practice, that leads to nirvana?

If hedonism -- the indulgence of the senses -- were the way, the Buddha would have practiced that and advocated it. If extreme penitence/asceticism were the way, he would have practiced and advocated that. The Buddha, the "Awakened One," did NOT practice or advocate these; Prince Siddhartha did, and he could not "awaken" until he realized both extremes were wrong.

The Buddha, which is who Siddhartha became at the fulfillment of his spiritual quest, advocated THE MIDDLE WAY that avoids two extremes, the path of sensuality (hedonism) and the path of self-mortification (self-torture). What is the "Middle Way," the "Path," the majjhima magga? There is "purification by wisdom [insight] of what is path and what is not-path" (one of the Seven Stages of Purification).

(Zeitgeist) Dr. Mate starts at Minute 31:15, "Zeitgeist 3: Moving Forward"

Now poor Kid Cudi, raised in a society that stressed and traumatized him early on (later leading very predictably to these woeful psychological states, as Dr. Gabor Mate explains so well in the movie "Zeitgeist 3") and then told that sensual pleasure/hedonism was the way  to satisfaction, the way out of these feelings. It's a lie. The world/our society lies to us. Hollywood, rappers, and TV lie to us, all the time. 

Why's the Buddha always smiling?
The historical Buddha Gautama often emphasized that he only really taught two things, suffering/pain (dukkha) and "the end of all suffering" (nirvana), bondage and freedom.

Saturday, July 4, 2009

Layperson's 4 Sources of Happiness

Prof. Lily de Silva (WQ edit)


We have already seen the extraordinary happiness available through the ascetic life (Samanaphala Sutta) because a king thought to ask the Buddha: What legitimate reason could someone possibly have to become a Buddhist monastic? The Buddha answered in terms of pleasure superior to that of a king. However, there is also a great deal of happiness borne of living a good Buddhist life as a layperson. Lily de Silva explains.

Physically, mankind has devolved. One now succumbs to untimely death by "diseases of affluence" (such as cancer, heart failure, diabetes). Mentally, we are so tension-ridden that most of us have forgotten the art of relaxing and so cannot enjoy sound sleep. In this set up interpersonal relationships become brittle and vulnerable, the divorce rate climbs, setting loose a series of social problems. Indeed, life has become problematic, a burden. And there is a great pressing need for a solution.

The words of the Buddha are of immeasurable value, universally applicable, because the Buddha taught not only monks and nuns, but also to the lay public. In fact, most of his teaching was to ordinary "householders." It is possible and useful to find Teachings of the Buddha relevant to the present-day, of immediate benefit, inviting us to come and see.

In the Pattakammavagga of the Anguttara Nikaya (AN II, 69), the Buddha gives a discourse (sutra) to the millionaire Anathapindika on the Fourfold Pleasures of a Layperson. This sutra offers valuable insights to meet present-day demands. It discusses four types:

  1. pleasure of having material wealth (atthisukha)
  2. pleasure of enjoying material wealth (bhogasukha)
  3. pleasure of being debtless (ananasukha), and
  4. pleasure of being blameless (anavajjaskha).
How can these sources of pleasure be harnessed for leading a happy lay life in the present day?

I. HAVING WEALTH — One is wise to have an ecological means of living (right livelihood), avoiding blameworthy trades such as dealing in:
  • meats
  • intoxicants
  • poisons
  • weapons
  • slaves

Instead, one pursues an occupation in a wholesome, harmless way. For instance, if a doctor welcomes poor lifestyle diseases in order to make money, like a trader hoping for natural calamities to send market prices up, the money earned is not honest money, but rather money made impure and foul by one's intentions.

One also avoids defrauding, deceiving, or exploiting others in the performance of one's job. One does not use "It's my job" as an excuse for bad karma. Exerting oneself for the good of oneself and others, one works with great perseverance. One earns a living. And such hard-earned wealth is called wholesome, blameless wealth (dhammika dhammaladdha). One amasses great wealth, with a sense of contentment, able to enjoy the pleasure of having it.

Otherwise, hoarding even massive wealth is like attempting to fill a bottomless vessel. Greed run all out of control is one of the widespread maladies seen in societies. This inordinate amassing of wealth becomes a source of aching misery and debilitating anxiety. Such wealth exposes the possessor to the jealousies and maneuvers of other unscrupulous individuals, hence the occurrence from time to time of crimes like blackmailing and kidnapping for ransom.

But if one has a righteous means of earning a living and the correct attitude toward wealth, one can escape many of the hazards that money brings in its wake to modern people.

II. ENJOYING WEALTH — Wealth only has instrumental value. And the proper enjoyment of wealth is an art well worth cultivating. Buddhism avoids both personal extravagance and miserly hoarding. One must maintain a healthy balanced standard of living according to one's means. If, in the enjoyment of wealth, one overindulges in sense pleasures, one is bound to run into health hazards in a very short time.

If, for instance, one overindulges in food just because one can afford it, one will soon be overcome by diseases such as heart diabetes, failure, and high blood pressure. Such a person will be faced with the situation of "cutting one's neck with one's own tongue." Moderation in food is a virtue praised in Buddhism, and it is a health-promoting habit.

Often in the name of enjoying wealth, one cultivates unhealthy habits such as smoking and drinking. It is paradoxical that humans, who actually love themselves most, should act as if they were their own worst enemies by indulging in habits that ultimately reduce them to physical wrecks. It is medically established that smoking causes the highest percentage of lung cancer, and that drinking causes irreparable damage to vital organs. If only one pauses to ponder over one's own welfare, and if only one entertains some degree of compassion towards oneself, one would not get into the clutches of these vicious habits.

Wealthy people often end up in the pitiful plight of the ant fallen in a pot of honey. Such people do not know the art of enjoying wealth. Regarding this body as simply an instrument of pleasure, they wear out and debilitate their capacity for enjoyment in double quick time, long before the natural process of wear and tear would set in.

If we love ourselves, we treat our bodies with care without taxing it with the alternate extremes of overindulgence and deprivation. It is with this body that we can enjoy not only the pleasures of the senses, but even the spiritual bliss of nirvana.

Another aspect of the joy of wealth is the art of sharing (generosity and charity or caga and dana). Without being a "never-giver" (adinnapubbaka), if one learns to share one's riches with the less fortunate, one will have the noble experience of being happy at the joy of another. This is called mudita (empathy or happiness at another's happiness). And at that time one earns the appreciation and goodwill of others, instead of becoming the target of jealousy and intrigue.

III. DEBTLESSNESS — The pleasure of being debtless is the third quality discussed in this sutra. If one can be completely free of debt, one is indeed a very fortunate person. To be debtless in society one has to discharge one's obligations scrupulously.

As a wage earner, one has a duty to work rather than living beyond one's means, otherwise one can be indebted by mismanagement.

As a parent one has to fulfill one's obligations to one's children. In society children are taught to respect and look after their parents. But one would do well to remember that parents too have to qualify themselves for the honor they receive by being dutiful parents. It should be emphasized that fathers who neglect their families as a result of their addiction to vices, such as drinking and gambling, fall far short of the ideal of debtlessness.

One can have the satisfaction of being debtless only if one has fulfilled one's obligations in the social roles one has to perform.

Alcohol consumption at Harvard -- failed path to happiness

IV. BLAMELESSNESS — The satisfaction of leading a blameless life is the highest form of satisfaction that a layperson can have. Every society has a code of ethics to be followed by its members. According to Buddhism, the minimum code of ethics regulating the life of its adherents is the Five Precepts:

  1. abstain from taking life
  2. abstain from taking what is not given
  3. abstain from sexual misconduct
  4. abstain from tale bearing
  5. abstain from intoxicants that occassion heedlessness

If one practices these virtues, one can have the satisfaction of leading a righteous life to a great extent. Refraining from doing to others what one does not like being done to oneself is the basic principle underlying these virtues.

Buddhism speaks of the sense of shame-about-wrongdoing (hiri) and fear-of-wrongdoing (ottappa) as heavenly qualities (deva dhamma). These are the basic qualities that separate humans from animal and lower planes of existence. Unlike animals, human have a conscience that makes them squeamish about wrongdoing.

Buddhism recognizes blameless mental activity as well. Mental activities -- which spring from greed, hatred, and delusion -- are unwholesome and blameworthy. They are unbeneficial in that they lead to one's harm. Such mental behavior is a source of unhappiness: Take for instance the case of a person who is angry. What are the symptoms of anger?

  • hard breathing
  • accelerated heartrate
  • fast circulation of blood
  • feeling hot
  • sweating
  • tension
  • trepidation
  • restlessness and so on

All of these are the physical manifestations of anger. They are certainly not comfortable physical experiences. Each time the cause of anger is remembered, even though the physical manifestations of anger may not be as marked, one feels restless and mentally ill at ease.

We use expressions such as "boiling with anger," "I got the devil into me," and so on to mean getting angry. These sayings are more literal than figurative. It is simply impossible to be angry and happy at the same time: An irritable person is a very sad person, and what is worse is that one infects others with that sadness.

In Buddhism, the word for mind -- seat of consciousness -- is heart (citta).

THE FOUR DIVINE ABIDINGS

There are four Sublime Modes of Behavior (brahmaviharas):

  1. loving-kindness
  2. active compassion
  3. sympathetic joy (mudita)
  4. equanimity

They are truly conducive to happy living here and now. Those who develop such attitudes to the point of being habits are pleasant and amicable people who are happy alone and in company.

If we understand the significance of the four kinds of happiness elucidated in this sutra, translating them into action, life will be much more pleasureable, pleasant, and happy even in this modern age. More>>