Wednesday, April 11, 2012

Zen, Sex, and the Slow Orgasm (video)

Wisdom Quarterly, NicoleDaedone.com (OneTaste.us),
Funny people taking pictures while traveling on a bus and nothing more (wahoha.com)

Wisdom Quarterly recently met the remarkable Nicole Daedone -- author, public speaker, and educator who focuses on the intersection between Buddhism, orgasm, intimacy, and life.

She is the founder of OneTaste, a cutting-edge company bringing a new definition of "orgasm" to women. The practice at the heart of her work is called OM (Orgasmic Meditation). OM uniquely combines the tradition of extended-orgasm with her own interest in:
  • Zen Buddhism
  • mystical Judaism
  • semantics

Helping to foster a new conversation about orgasm -- one that is real, relevant, and intelligent -- Daedone has inspired thousands of students to make OM a part of their everyday lives.


Tantra is the yoga of intimacy: tantrika embraces a bodhisattva (BuddhismMagazine.com)

Interview with a TEDdy Bear Hugger
Seth Auberon (edited by Amber Dorrian), April 3, 2012
Nicole Daedone: Gratitude is at the root of my practice.
Wisdom Quarterly: The Buddha talked so much about the four "Divine Abidings" -- friendliness, compassion, empathic joy, and unbiased detachment -- that depend on and support "gratitude" (kataññu). But gratitude is not usually singled out as a heart practice itself.
ND: It is central to the practice.
WQ: Yes, kataññu refers to the sense of thanks or debt we owe to others. We might bring it to mind more easily by conceiving of its opposite, which is the sense that "You owe me."
ND: Yes! That is a good way of putting it.
WQ: Does the universe owe me?
ND: Does it?
WQ: If we think it does, we suffer. If instead we are suffused with a sense of how much we would owe it, if it were charging us, we are turned inside out: filled with appreciation, humble, thankful, or grateful. How did you arrive at this wonderful practice?
ND: A lot of self-examination, reflection, and taking inventory led me to it.
WQ: We arrived at it via meditation.
ND: That had a great deal to do with it for me. Even before I stumbled into meditation, I was practicing and in search of fulfillment. Suffering can open the heart quite a bit to others.
WQ: Suffering would have killed us if at some point we didn't OPEN, acknowledge, accept, embrace, welcome it, and let things go.
ND: Exactly! It is a visceral experience. I was feeling others' feelings.
WQ: It's terrible to be stuck in one's head!
ND: It sounds like you found the secret.
WQ: If only it weren't so easy to lose. How did you do it?

(healthynews.com)

ND: By feeling, and feeling has nothing to do with the head. It is a heart practice.
WQ: Buddhism is full of heart-cultivating practices as, to name just two examples, Sharon Salzberg and Pema Chodron deal with in popular titles.
ND: The thing is, gratitude is really an outcome, not a process. One may lead to the other, but they should not be confused one with the other. When I distinguish them I'm well on my way to outcomes. I only need to ask myself, "What is the process?"
WQ: Speaking of sex, orgasm is really an outcome, not a process. If someone says, "Orgasm!" we can't. But we can engage in a process, and that may lead to it. But we can't "do" the outcome.
ND: That is an amazing synchronicity! That is what I specialize in. That is exactly it, a great example.
WQ: You specialize in sex?
ND: In orgasm.
WQ: Wow, the outcome, the opening. What is the process?
ND: One very helpful process is found in my OneTaste video.



The Basics of Orgasmic Meditation
The next sex is orgasm. It’s what sex always wanted to be. Find it through meditation -- OM (Orgasmic Meditation). This video shows how. Imagine a kind of experience that gives vitality, that soothes the hunger inside, the secret code to the female orgasm, the first step to feeling the deep connection we're all looking for. Watch as we demonstrate the technique that is helping thousands of people.

WQ: The one taste of the sea is salty, just as the one taste of the Dharma is truth. Is true intimacy the process that leads to OM?
ND: There are other basic processes. They can prepare us by sorting out our emotions. One is the "Fear Inventory."
WQ: We'll have to have you back very soon to talk about it.
ND: I would love that! I just moved to Santa Monica from San Francisco. I'm still settling in.
WQ: In the meantime, roll the TED tape!

(RepertoireProductions.com) Nicole Daedone, TEDxTalks

Raised in Los Gatos, Daedone graduated from nearby San Francisco State University with a degree in semantics and gender communication. She went on to found the popular avant garde art gallery 111 Minna Gallery in SoMa before moving on to OneTaste.

She is the author of Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm (Grand Central/Hachette, 2011) and has appeared on ABC's Nightline.

Her work has been featured in the New York Times, New York Post, San Francisco Chronicle, and 7x7 Magazine, among others, and her writing has appeared in the Buddhist oriented Tricycle Magazine.

In his Number 1 New York Times Bestseller The 4-Hour Body, Timothy Ferriss calls the OM practice "required education for every man on the planet."

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