Wednesday, March 7, 2018

How to talk about PORN with TEENS (video)

NPR's Joshua Johnson (The1A.org); Maggie Jones; Prof. Emily Rothman; Al Vernacchio; Erika Lust (ThePornConversation.org); Ashley Wells, Pat Macpherson, CC Liu (eds.), Wisdom Quarterly
Who needs sexting when we have Instagram and SnapChat? (Ava Locklear-Sambora)

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Porn and the Teenage Brain
My mom doesn't know I watch and touch my...
There is a lot of pornography on the Internet. And there are a lot of teenagers with smartphones [accessing that porn].

It seems obvious that teens would watch. But maybe it isn’t.

In The New York Times magazine, Maggie Jones writes that parents underestimate how much pornography their kids watch on their phones.

And many teens who watch porn before taking sex ed or forming sexual relationships end up with skewed ideas about intimacy, consent, and pleasure.

Combine this with mainstream depictions of sex and relationships, and, as Jones writes:
If I can't have Sex Ed in school, I'll teach myself.
These images confound [and confuse] many teenagers about the kinds of sex they want or think they should have [such as masturbation, anime, lesbianism, dating violence, homosexuality, joyful orgasm, incest, rape, beastiality, demeaning sex, consensual relations, use of condoms, orgies, coercion, punishment, Mormonism, sodomy, healthy portrayals, cartoons... -- the good, the bad, the ugly].
In part, that’s because they aren’t always sure what is fake and what is real in porn. Though some told me that porn was fantasy or exaggerated, others said that porn wasn’t real only insofar as it wasn’t typically two lovers having sex on film. Some of those same teenagers assumed the portrayal of how sex and pleasure worked was largely accurate.
That seems to be in keeping with a 2016 survey of 1,001 11-to-16-year-olds in Britain. Of the roughly half who had seen pornography, 53 percent of boys and 39 percent of girls said it was “realistic.”
And in the recent Indiana University national survey, only one in six boys and one in four girls believed that women in online porn were not actually experiencing pleasure: As one suburban high school senior boy told me recently, “I’ve never seen a girl in porn who doesn’t look like she’s having a good time.”
This is a handheld porn computer.
Solutions like removing pornography from the Internet or smartphones from teenage life are difficult to the point of being technologically or socially impossible.

So some educators are trying something new…porn literacy.
 
For this radio episode of "1A," listeners are invited to share their stories about how pornography has affected them and their children’s ideas about sex.

Look at that brass me, so shiny!
Call (855) 236-1212 and share a story. And don’t worry, no need to reveal your name [because the caller ID will provide that and more as it does for all 800 numbers when you call in to radio stations; call from a payphone]. More


GUESTS
  • Maggie Jones, contributing writer for the New York Times Magazine, @maggiepjones
  • Dr. Emily Rothman, associate professor in the Department of Community Health Sciences at the Boston University School of Public Health. Co-author of the course, "The Truth About Pornography: A Pornography-Literacy Curriculum for High School Students Designed to Reduce Sexual and Dating Violence," @emrothman
  • Al Vernacchio, sex educator, speaker, author of For Goodness Sex: Changing the Way We Talk to Teens About Sexuality, Values, and Health, @alvsexed
  • Erika Lust, adult film director and producer, creator of the pornography education website "The Porn Conversation," designed to be a resource for parents, @erikalust
REACTIONS
How the Brain and Orgasm Conspire in Consciousness
How the brain and orgasm conspire in consciousness (Awaken Consciousness)
 
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No, sex is wrong!
(WQ) How dare you talk about this taboo subject on a sex-positive Buddhist site! How dare you be a sex-positive site! This is a shameful subject! You should be ashamed of yourselves! We should all be ashamed of ourselves!

God is going to punish us! Don't tell the kids!! They can figure it out when they go to college or leave home!!!

Avatar( edited by WQ) As a society we have taken one of [the] greatest gifts to us and demonized it. I'm talking about sex! Sex is the most beautiful interaction two individuals in love can experience together.

But we have taken this gift and made it something we cannot talk about, we can't think about, we can't enjoy without feeling guilt. Is it any wonder our kids turn to porno?
 
Ignorance is not bliss; it is simply ignorance. Young minds want to know things; they will do whatever it takes to learn. How do you want them to learn? Let's talk with our adolescents in an open and honest conversation. Yes, sometimes the most valuable conversations will be the toughest. 

P.S. You are not allowed to think about pink elephants! Q: What did you just think about? [A: Sex. ;/ NOTE: If you order kids NOT to do something, that's exactly what you will get them to focus on until they begin to obsess.]
 
RESOURCES
WARNING: These links may contain frank discussions of sex.

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Lesbian teacher arrested for child molestation
This project offers tools for parents to teach younger generations about porn (they're already watching).
 
Day by day it’s more difficult to exercise control over what our kids are watching online. They are exposed to grossly distorted visual depictions of sex at very early ages.
 
We think that prohibition and shame are NOT the answer. Instead, we believe education and conversation are.

By choosing to shed light on the debate about online pornography, we are campaigning for more equipped and alert young beings ready to make better choices driven by knowledge not fear. More

Role model Trump: President porn watcher [blanked] porn star to cheat on his wife.

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